Welcome to the site Cloudberry! And, thank you for your participation! I appreciate your sharing.
You mentioned that you're interested in other peoples views.
My perspective may be a bit different -- so, I hope you are warm to the idea of me sharing them.
As I see it:
1. The primary purpose of the 12 Steps is to produce a personality change. (psychic change as mentioned by Dr. Silkworth, in the Dr.'s Opinion).... "to prepare me"... to use "these principles" (of the 12 Steps) as a Design for Daily Living.
The way to "produce this psychic change" for me, was to "take the 12 Steps."
To "take the 12 Steps" is not the same as "to learn or practice the 12 Steps."
I refer to page 59 of the Big Book, (our basic text):
"Here are the steps we took,
which are suggested as a
program of recovery:"
It wasn't until after I "took" the Steps, that I was able to "practice" these principles in all my affairs. I first needed the transformation in thought and attitudes that would come about as a result to "taking the steps" and then, I would be able to "put into practice."
2. One of the major problems that I've observed within the recovery community -- is when a person, new or old, begins the process of "taking the steps"... they begin with Chapter 5, "How it works."
For me, this was like trying to figure out algebra problems -- before I had learned to add and subtract and multiply. And, it wasn't until I started at the front cover of the BB, and followed the instructions up to Chapter 5, that I was prepared for the "doing".
3. My view of the problem that you wrote about is not a "manage-ability" or "un-manage-ability" problem. It's a structure and discipline problem.
Page 88 BB:
"It worksâ€”it really does.
We alcoholics are undisciplined. So we let God discipline
us in the simple way we have just outlined.
But this is not all. There is action and more action.
â€œFaith without works is dead.â€