Actually, I would suggest that you go back to the front of the Big Book, and to Step One.
Fourth Step problems are not 4th Step problems... just like 3rd Step problems are not 3rd Step problems... and 9th Step problems are not 9th Step problems... The only time you'll ever have a problem with the Steps or any part of the Steps (and you can take this to the Sobriety Bank)... it's a First Step Problem.
Question: When you started the work on your Steps... did you start with Chapter 5, of the Big Book?
When we get a good enough dose of the First Step, and we realize and understand what the First Step means... and we become "convinced" that we are alcoholic and we admit to being powerless over our alcoholism... and REALLY understand what that means... it will remove any blockage that we have for taking any of the remaining 11 Steps.
On the other hand, if we don't get a good enough dose of Step One... we will balk, "Oh what an order! I can't go through with this!"
Step One -- answers the entire "self-reliance" questions. A real Step One is understanding that our Self can not fix our alcoholism problem... and all along we have been "relying on our Self" to try to stay sober.
What Step One is telling us is: "Neither our own power... or any other human power... including all the human power in or out of AA... will be able to keep us from the next first drink."
I can't wait for this new movie to come out "Werewolf"... with Anthony Hopkins.
See, it's a perfect metaphor for the "practicing alcoholic"... the man doesn't have the power to not become the wolf... no matter how much he wants to stop being a werewolf (Im probably not spelling it right)... he can't stop. That's Powerless-ness.