I'm glad your cute, its something that runs in my family too, but it ran right past me
Anytime I show a picture of daughter, they tell me she must have got her looks from her mother. I thinks its just the AA up here...can be brutal.
So my friend, I wasn't saying or implying that you were trying to be cute or witty, and I wasn't trying to make you out to be anything bad or anything but the cute and witty alcoholic that I now know you must be. Up here, the guys that explain sobriety like you are con artists, and not very cute and witty. But that doesn't mean I think you're a con artist. If I thought you were an uncute, dim-witted, con artist, I would just say so, like I tell them. I also call them weasels. All to their face.
Anyway like you said, what worked for you might not work for me. But you know, there are some of us that can only figure things out exactly like the book says. See when I read your post, it looks like you actually was thinking
about sobriety and alcoholism. Then you made correlations and the like. Well you see, "thinking" is not my strong suit. I was taught if I get alone in my head, I was in the bad neighborhood. Just the other night I asked my sponsor what the heck they meant by that "think, think, think" slogan we just heard in the lead and how come they never told me that. This is the truth too, I did talk to him about it. He said, you gotta wait another 5 years before we tell you that one.
Maybe thinking and looking at things from different angles works in your neighborhood. Up here, there are more "angles" than a geometry book that these guys "work" to weasel out of being thorough and doing the right thing. See if I tell one of these knuckleheads up here that the first step means your powerless over sobriety, they'll automatically think they are not powerless over alcohol, and they'll go and test that idea. I mean they make up more excuses up here than a crook going to jail to get out of working a recovery program and the steps. Maybe its just the area.
Well since my wit must be dimly lit, and I'm not so cute, I always gotta remember that I am powerless over the substance alcohol. I think I do have power over sobriety. I have a choice to stay sober each day, or to drink. I can "take" one day of sobriety, and the next day choose to get drunk. I can choose to take three weeks of sobriety, and then I can get drunk for another 3 weeks. Then somebody else stops me from drinking like the law, and I can choose to be sober for another week, and go in and out until I die.
I don't have that same choice with alcohol. Like the book says, I lost the ability to make a choice when it comes to taking a drink of alcohol. When I "take" one drink, I can't choose to stop. Sobriety doesn't trigger the phenomenon of craving for me...it's drinking alcohol that does, and I have no power over that. I can't control my drinking.
My life had become unmanageable because I drank and couldn't stop. And when I wasn't drinking, I was obsessed with planning the next drunk. My life was unmanageable because I spent my life trying to manage something I was powerless to manage, the consumption of alcohol, or the consequences that came after drinking. So the other things in my life that needed my management went by the wayside, like money, relationships, home, job, and the other stuff that makes life worth living.
For me sobriety has always been manageable as long as I read the book, live the 12-steps, go to meetings, help others, and just do what my sponsor tells me to do. I don't think there is a softer easier way. Today my life is more manageable than its ever been.
Hey, but I understand what your saying, and it is a good thing to look at "not drinking" as "keeping sober". I see where that works for you. For me, that's the way I look at it too. Life is sobriety. I don't think of it anymore as "not drinking". But that was one of those things that just happened, and I didn't think about it ("God helps the simple and drunk"). So I figure I must have got that changed perspective from working the steps and having that spiritual awakening. No thinking involved. But it still got me to the right place.
Anyway Dallas, I'm glad what works for you does work for you. I also hope it works for the guys you help to help themselves, too. If it does then God bless ya! Maybe we're just a little bit sicker up here and need things drilled into our heads just the way it was written.