Well, the "Having difficulty with Step 2?" question produced such a spirited flurry of activity.... I was wondering "What other question could ignite such a flare of sharing?"
So.... how about... "Having difficulty with Step 3?"
I had difficulties with Step 3. Mainly, it was because I didn't understand what Step 3 actually was. My perception had me "working the heck out of the Step" but getting nowhere.
At the time, one of my sober brothers was telling me "Step 3 is simply making a decision to go on with Steps 4 through 9!" And, I couldn't understand it that way... at the time.
I said "No, Bob... it can't be that. Because it says we 1. Thought well before taking this Step, and 2. it indicates that we're actually turning our will and life over to God!
Well... I was right, in a way...
But, later on... after I actually did do my Steps 4 through 9, I came to the same conclussion that Bob was trying to help me understand.
Step Three... is simply making the decision, to take a certain course of actions.... and the course of actions are Steps 4 through Step 9.
Step Three is kind of like making a decision to drive from California to New York. Nothing happens until I get in the car and start driving.
It's kind of like the quiz "There were three frogs sitting on a log... one frog decided to jump in the water... how many frogs were left sitting on the log?"
The correct answer is three. Nothing will have changed until certain actions follow the decision.
Often, I hear others share... like I used to share... "Well, I'm working on Step 3." Now, when I hear that... I ask them, "How long does it take you to make a decision?"
Sometimes, I hear "Well, I don't want to rush things!"
And, my next question is... "How long do you want to be sober?"
Steps 4 through 9, are to remove the obsession and the insanity to drink. Until the obsession and insanity have been removed, our sobriety is in a danger zone.
Having difficulty with Step 3?