Last night we got together for about three hours and began the fifth. Very, very different from when I did it last time. Then, all I did was read the "poor me" stuff about how I had been wronged, and of course the shameful things that I had put my parents through. We cried together and that was it. This time, I read off my resentments list and we went back and pinpointed what it affected in me, self-esteem, security, etc., then went further to state where I had gone wrong in the transaction, such as, being the victim, not defending myself, self-seeking, etc., and finally, what I could have done differently, i.e. not playing the victim, ignoring whoever, walking away, defending myself, etc.
What a big difference from the first time! I must say, we are not by any means finished with my fifth, but this sure took alot of the "resentment wind" out of my sails!!!! Hope it sticks...although I realize that anger and resentments will raise their heads, at least I have some ammunition and tools to work with.