Fortmill, I don't think you'll find any of the regulars that post in this forum, that does not believe in recovery, and living a happy, joyous and free experience of life -- that is fulfilling to the max.
I can't think of one member here -- that does not believe in recovery and living the Good Life, as a result of taking and practicing the 12 Steps as their Design for Living.
We're all on the same side as you!
We can, we will, and we do recover -- "if" we take certain actions. That's not just a promise, it's a fact.
And, most everyone here will agree with you -- that in the majority of AA Discussion type meetings -- you'll hear a lot about the problems and very little about the recovery solution.... And, you'll hear it week after week, and year after year, as though there is no such thing as recovering.
We know this from our own experience at the meetings.
The real question should be "What can we do to help them?"
I know from my own experience, that if we go to the meetings and shove the Big Book down their throats and try to force them to swallow it -- they'll just spit it back up and they'll be angry with us because "we don't appear to be very recovered ourselves"... in our efforts to convince them.
If they don't like you -- you won't be able to help anyone.
Some will reply with "It's not my concern to have them like me, it's my concern to carry the message!" And, they look at it in such a way as "it's all our war to convince these alkies of their wrongs and get them to swallow the message in the book!"
These types, I believe, cause more harm, in the way that they are attempting to carry the message... than the harm caused by not carrying the message.
Often, "the Big Book Thumpers" (as many of us are often called)...
are at a disadvantage... because some other Big Book Thumpers roared through their meetings like a tornado of self-will, good intentions, but with logic that wouldn't hold up under close examination (they were mixing up the message with ideas that were not sound by taking bits and parts of the Big Book, and not thoroughly examining it, in relationship to the other parts of the Big Book).
Their attitudes sucked. They appeared to "the unrecovered" (as the Thumpers would refer to them)
as "Elite-ist... better-than, holy-er than"... the others.
Naturally, this does not do much in regards to trying to bring about any kind of Unity!
Bill also referred to "the good as being the greatest enemy of the best".
What I discovered, through my own personal experience was: If I desire to help the unrecovered alcoholics... then, the first thing on my list should be to "try it smarter rather than harder".
And, "to carry the message" most effectively, means that "I carry the message by demonstration and example -- in my personality, in my way of life, in my thinking, and in the kind, polite, and respectful ways -- that I treat others."
I was going to write about including "the theory of bedevilments"... in the message... and how that theory can cause us to miss out on helping many other types of alcoholics -- and how the theory will not hold up under close examination of the Big Book -- but, I'll save that for a future post!
If we're turning people off -- we're not going to be able to turn any of them on!
Let's find the BEST way, to turn them on "to recovery" rather than "turn them off" before we get a chance to help them.