Welcome to the site JoelO! Nice to have you. I hope you decide that there is something worthwhile and of value here -- and that you'll stay and hang out with us.
It could be that the most valuable thing that you find here -- is how you can be a help to us! Helping us achieve the things that we deisre.
I've discovered that when my focus is on trying to help someone else get what they want -- I automatically end up getting what I want. Whereas, when I focus on trying to get what I want -- I end up empty handed.
There is a little secret hidden in the Big Book, in the Chapter to the Family After, that many AA's overlook reading... (from what I've been told by many AA's)... For me, it's the secret to sobriety and the secret to the good life.
"Our guiding principle becomes giving rather than receiving".
I'm not a farmer, but I've read some books on it, and I've watched Discovery Channel!
But, I learned that if we take what we have, and turn it into a seed, and give it to the ground, we reap a harvest. And, the harvest is always gigantic in comparison to the seeds.
While it's true that we cannot pass on something that we haven't got -- we can start taking that which is good in us (and all of us have something good in us)... and begin to share that good with others. It becomes our seed. And, we don't look for the harvest to come from the ground where we planted out seed.... The wind blows. Life happens. And, one day, out of the corner of our eye, we spot a harvest coming into our life -- from a direction where we never anticipated it coming from!
Begin to look for the good inside you -- instead of focusing on the things about you that you'd like to change. By focusing on the good -- and doing more of it -- the changes that you desire will automatically begin to happen.
Take what you have and join us. Bring the good and the bad... because we'll identify with you. We're that way, also. You'll be helping us as you allow us to witness the changes that take place in your life -- for the better. It will give us hope -- that if we continue to do what you do -- we, too, will get what you have received!