Good morning Joe! Thanks for sharing!
For me, my immediate family was the last ones to come around in regards to "understanding." The one's that are still alive still don't understand... one of my brothers died last year of the same condition that I have, but he never experienced sobriety, because of his refusal to understand, and my little sister, who was finally understanding, died in December of last year.
For a long time it was hard for me... because I thought that it would be nicer if they did understand. So, that led me to do too much thinking about it. And, it's my thinking that makes things hard and painful, and discontented!
When I realized it wasn't important what someone else thinks and it's my own thinking that brings me pain or pleasure, I was able to let it go and just try to show others love, tolerance and patience... and offer to give away understanding rather than receive it.