I was looking here and there - in a bunch of our topics and posts.
Let's just take a "typical" rough week which is turning into a rough month.
Let me show you a couple "points of interest" on our little site-seeing tour.
-At least 3-4 of us, maybe more, have paid a visit to a hospital.
-At least 3-4 of us have been in contact with our young "man-child" sons who ALL have abused drugs.
-At least 4 of us have some kind of significant other that is also somehow addicted to something or in some kind of recovery.
-We've experienced episodes of attempted suicide and domestic violence.
-It seems like we've all shed probably a gallon or two of tears between us.
There's probably more. The kinds of things we've been experiencing and sharing are not what "social drinkers" run into every day - I tell you what!
Ladies and gentlemen - we're "out there" on the edge. We're in the middle of places where people die, get arrested, or get insitutionalized. We get calls from loved ones in the middle of the night. We have people living in our homes that aren't our companions or family, and they have substance abuse problems. We get knocks on the door and we worry about when we'll hear some kind of tragic news from a state trooper. We have significant others who have left, got kicked out, or are planning or deciding on when to leave us.
I sure don't know where this train is going, but it seems like we're all riding it together. The good news is that we're sober. The bad news is probably none of us have figured out how to avoid these "personal adventures" and "high drama". Hell I got almost 10 years sober and I'm riding the same train and going through the same experiences that a lady with 10 days sober is going through.
So this is "normal", huh?
What a bunch of lunatics... Look out that one's got a hammer! Heads up INCOMING!!! No wait! You can't go back out there - you'll get killed! Honey, who's at the door at THIS HOUR! Mom-I'm sick. DUCK!
I almost feel like saying sometimes "Stand back fool! Or else you'll get what we have!" instead of "Do you want what we have, and are you willing...?" Anybody with an ounce of sanity seems like they'd run and hide if they saw any one of us walking down the street with a smile on our face and our eyes focused on them - then having our hands stretched out ready to shake. God God!
The book says it a little bit more kindly:
"There you will find release from care, boredom, and worry."
"You will be bound to them with new and wonderful ties, for you will escape disaster together..."
(Boy was that an understatement!)
"It may seem incredible that these men [and women] are to become happy, respected, and useful once more."
(The operative there being "incredible"!)
"Your imagination will be fired."
(Now there's a REAL DUESY - who came up with that idea? Some of our imaginations NEED to be fired!)
Now I found it ladies! Here's the memo we must have missed:
"It may mean the loss of many night's sleep, great interference with your pleasures, interuptions to your business. It may mean sharing your money and your home, counselling frantic wives and relatives, innumerable trips to police courts, sanitariums
[a.ka. "treatment centers"], hospitals, jails, and assylums.
(what the hell does he mean "innumerable"
???) Your telephone may jangle at any time of the day or night. Your wife [husband] may sometimes say she is neglected. A drunk may smash the furniture in your home, or burn a matress
(or smash a windshield!!!
). You may have to fight with him if he is violent..."
(Hey! Wait a minute! I thought they told me "it gets better", WTF!!!???)
Good God! What on earth did we sign up for?
Whatever it was, this "tough week" thread confirms that it is exactly what the book talks about.
I guess it's to be expected "occasionally".
OK so this is just a little funning around folks - Rule 62 here for a minute.
God bless you all and ... well I love you all too.
Thanks for helping me today!