Very good suggestions Ranman!
I guess I never had a problem with resenting drinkers that still drink. I usually resent drinkers that can drink that don't drink.
What I mean by that is: If the person isn't alcoholic -- heck, why aren't they drinking? I'd drink if I wasn't alcoholic.
Envy. Yes. Sometimes, I've been guilty of that... and maybe, now that I'm looking at it... maybe resenting and envy. I mean "Dang girlfriend, if you're not alcoholic and you can drink -- then, turn that bottle up and empty it for God's sake! Don't just play around with it!!!"
But, I think it's a more humorous type envy and type resentment if it is one. Yeah. I know. I'm an alcoholic and I can't afford to have any kind of anger and resentment... especially "the justified kind" (that's the most dangerous type for me). Because, if I do that -- I'll end up drinking again, and the drinkers will be resenting me -- for drinking all their drinks!
There have been days when I'll be out mowing the lawn... hot, sunny, sweaty, and think "Damn. Too bad I'm alcoholic -- a nice cold beer sure would taste good right now." And, I really seem to convince myself "Oh yeah... not the effect... just the taste!"
That's like a guy saying he reads Playboy for the articles!!! It's the effect baby! And, then I look across the street and see my neighbor and a bunch of his buds enjoying laughter, conviviality and a good time downing some cold ones as they watch me suffer!!!
Life is just wrong for alcoholics!!!
It's out to get us!
But, it sure beats what we get from our alcoholism -- if we pick up a drink again!