The solution is in working the 12 Steps, they need to become your way of life. The person who you described sounds pretty typical of a newcomer to the rooms. Now meetings are important in that they are a fellowship, but they in and of themselves will not get you to the point of being happy, joyous and free. That comes from doing the program. It is spelled out in the Big Book. It is in the Big Book forum or at AA.org. The meetings have them for sale too, usually cheap.
Go to a meeting and find a sponsor to take you through the steps, that is their job. Then have the meeting with your friends and you will have your job.
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