Welcome to the site. And, thanks for sharing.
I'm a little confused and not sure what kind of insight that you're looking for.
The primary focus of recovery is: sobriety. Being sober and living sober.
Sobriety, sober = total abstinence from ALL drinking and drugging.
I guess it's mentioning all the other stuff in the scenarios is what's confusing to me.
A sobriety date IS our sobriety date. Even if we came in to AA in 1939, and didn't drink or smoke pot until September 29, 2011 -- IF September 30, 2011 is the date of our last drink and drug 9/30/2011 is our sobriety date -- and EVERYTHING that we did BEFORE 9/20/2011 has nothing to do w/ anything in regards to sobriety and recovery.
If you're still smoking pot -- you're still not sober.
I hope you don't get mad at me for telling you. Your post subject is "Honesty and Staying Sober" and I can't be any more honest than that.
Believe me, I understand the predicament -- from my own personal experience. I came into AA on December 28th 1985. I stayed sober until May 28th. 1986. When I started drinking again on May 28th. 1986 -- I lost my December 28th, 1985 sobriety date.
After I started drinking again -- it didn't matter how many meetings that I went to -- I couldn't stay sober for a 1 1/2 hr meeting!
When I was sober enough to get to the meeting -- I'd have to leave the meeting half way through, to go out to my car to take a nip -- to hold me over till the end of the meeting.
I was never very successful at "nipping" ... but I am very good at guzzling.
I wasn't able to get sober again, until November 14th, 1986, 2:47 pm, Pacific Standard Time.
Over the last nine thousand and something days in a row... there were MANY TIMES that I needed a drink, wanted a drink, wanted to take some pills or smoke some pot. But, what I wanted MORE than that was: to keep my sobriety date.
You see -- I learned how important it is to have a sobriety date. And, that just because I have one -- doesn't mean I could get another one -- if I gave up the one I have. I HONESTLY do NOT think I could get sober again. That's not fear -- it's just pure, plain, simple, honesty that's based upon my track record.
If I missed the point of what the post was about, sorry. I tried.
Best wishes to you.