Yep. Ex's are notorious for showing up when we get sober and they think we got money in our pockets again.
I remember at 90 days I was really struggling. I'd look up and see a billboard w/ a chick and a drink and it would drive me insane!
Well -- I mean MORE insane!
I finally had to get a bumper sticker and put it on the back of my car, hoping that if I got too close to a liquor store some sober cop might show up and bust me before I could drink. We had a few sober cops where I got sober. And, even many of the one's that weren't sober -- recognized our bumper stickers and check on us sometimes. I'm grateful that they did! It was a lot better than having them shoot at me.
Then, I got one of those "First Things First" stickers and put it on the dash of my car -- to remind me that I was a drunk, because I seemed to stay thirsty all the time! Finally, I plastered my whole dash w/ stickers of the Serenity Prayer, Easy Does It, Take it easy. 3rd Step prayer, the AA logo and all kinds of stuff -- to try and help me make it between meetings without drinking. Yep. I'll never forget those days!
Hey. Sorry to hear about your dad. One good thing you can say is -- at least he's seeing you sober while he's still alive. I wish my pops could have seen me sober before he died. At least my mom got to see me sober before she died. And, my long-distance kids know I'm sober.
No one promised us it would be easy but we do know it won't be any easier if we go back out!! I'm sorry to hear about your Dad but Dallas is right, at least he get a sober son and thats the GREATEST gift that you can give him!!