Thanks for sharing!
In my case, it helps me to remember, that: Just because men wear pants instead of skirts -- some men are wearing panties under those pants.
I think you might have scared him and he went crying to mommy.
In regards to "We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us." -- That's found on page 84, of the Big Book. After Step 9, and leading into Step 10. On page 84, it lists some things "that we've done" and things "that we continue to do" -- for this to become reality.
A few paragraphs beyond that -- it cautions us about expecting to "be inspired" all the time. Thus, the reason we have Step 10 -- "to clean up the wreckage of the present." (whereas Steps 4-9, is cleaning up the wreckage of the past).
I'd suggest: Don't be too hard on yourself! The only thing we're going to be perfect at is: being perfectly wrong. And, once in a while, we'll get it right. Occasionally, we might screw up and get it perfectly right -- but, don't hold your breath waiting for those occasions.
This situation might have ruined your day -- but don't let it devastate your week, or month. You might want to read pages 60-64, Big Book. I do that, when either I screw up, or the other people screw up, and it helps me figure out what I can do about it -- as an alternative to "taking them outside."
I appreciate your sharing! Please keep me updated here. I might be able to learn something from the way you handle this, so that it will help me, the next time, I'm faced w/ something similar!