Hi Ann Marie ~
All great questions!! One of the most important things I did for myself in early sobriety was to exercise every morning. That started my day on a positive note and got my feel-good chemicals flowing.
My sponsor was big on "move a muscle, change a thought", so keeping active throughout the day was helpful. If I started to get bored and antsy, and thinking about a drink, I would clean. Now mind you, I'm not a big fan of domestic chores, but burning off energy scrubbing the bathroom floor was helpful.
I also changed routines -- instead of coming home from working and walking right in to the kitchen, I'd go right upstairs and change my clothes. Just small changes in routine like that helped to redirect my thinking.
As it says in the Living Sober book, if I ate something rich and sweet, it knocked out the craving right away. Still struggling with an ice cream addiction
but it's much healthier than the path I was on while drinking.
For me, to shake things up and "do the opposite" was good. Nothing changes if nothing changes!
I did tell close friends -- I really had no family to tell outside of my husband and daughter, and yes, they knew. I don't have experience with big family gatherings to share with you, but I'm sure others do.
Around the holidays, though, I made sure I went to extra meetings, it was and still is very important for me to stay connected during times where my emotions can get the better of me.