Welcome to the site. Glad you decided to stop by and hang out with us. I hope you find something useful here and that we can be of help to you, as well as you being a help to us, and especially helpful to those who haven't made it far as you have, yet.
Sometimes, a guy or girl with four or five days sober, is able to help another alcoholic more than someone with four or five years sober! So, remember, each day that you are sober you have something worthy and of value to share and to give to someone else.... regardless if it's the alcoholic who is still drinking and desires to stop, or it's a guy or girl with 20 years of sobriety. When you stay sober, it not only helps you, but it's helping someone else.
In a nutshell -- it seems to me that this is the entire concept of how this deal works. We try to help someone else achieve -- what we want to achieve for ourselves. And, when we're trying to help someone else -- the help that we need and want, seems to slip in through the back door and we get what we have been trying to give. It doesn't look like it would work -- trying to give what we want to recieve -- because that concept seems to be backwards to how most of us learned to live our lives. But, it really does work!
Just imagine how awesome it will be to see all those Christmas and Holiday lights, and trees, and smiling faces of kids, and the feeling of warmth, and love and care, with family and friends, at this special time of year -- and to be able to see it and do it sober! To participate and experience with them -- sober.
For me, it has been through A.A., that I've been able to discover and experience the life -- sober -- that I had been looking for in the bottle.
It gets better and better and better and better. And, when it seems as though it isn't getting better -- we can pause and ask ourselves something like "maybe there is a different way to do what I've been trying to do" -- and we make a few changes, and we're back on the path to the good life again.
Glad to have you here, Bill.