"Funny how we'll hear so many people say that they are or have been people pleasers -- as if it were a bad thing -- when --what happens to us, as a result of taking the Steps -- is that we become People Pleasers!"
That's a really good point. The problem with my people pleasing is that I often hold things in that I should just go ahead and say. For instance, Billy, my barber, is continually wetting peoples hair down and sending them out with wet hair. I've spoken to him twice about this and each time it ended up in an argument. Now, I don't want my shop to be one of those fly by night barber shops hence the reason I want him to take a few extra minutes to dry the guys hair. Besides that, you can't tell if you've done a good haircut or a bad one if it's wet. So, in order to avoid a confrontation, I avoid saying something to him again and I get angry inside when he does it.
I try to avoid confrontations at all costs because I'm afraid someone won't like me. I hold things in to avoid that, and then become angry.
Now, my stuff is not my stuff -- It's God's stuff -- and He just shares it with me and lets me use it. And, instead of "rights" I gave those up for "privileges and opportunities." And, boundaries for me... is just another form of limitation on my living-ness. In My Father's house, and in My Father's world -- there are no limitations because anything and everything is possible. I would rather experience a life of possibility thinking and possibility living. Boundaries... for me... shuts me out of possibility living. I like the Carpenter's idea... that "all things are possible."
I love this...instead of boundaries and rights consider privileges and opportunities. I feel like I have to have boundaries and limitations, otherwise I'm going to allow people to walk all over me. Who knows tho, I still have a long way to go b4 I can even begin to imagine what I need and don't need.
Thanks for sharing, Dallas.