Debbie wrote:get to work thinking about being sober and not thinking about getting drunk
That's the key and it works.
What is an obsession? Well, when you boil the big answers down into menudo -- it's one thing: "Thinking"
As long as you're alive -- you'll be thinking about something -- so, either get used to thinking, and try to do less of it -- or... change what you're thinking about.
You're a week away from the Italian food -- and you're thinking about drinking next week!
What if -- you thought about staying sober?
Most people will say "well that means thinking about not drinking... right?"
The "problem centers in the mind." The part of the mind that's working to make things happen -- when you're not consciously thinking about it -- is the subconscious part of the mind.
To the subconscious -- everything is positive. It doesn't think in negatives. So, when you say "don't drink" -- the subconscious only hears the command to "drink". And, the subconscious is more powerful than the conscious mind.
That's why "will power" doesn't work for the alcoholic that wants to use it to "not drink".
"Will power" is for getting things done... not for "not doing something."
So, how do you tie all this together to make it make sense and make it work for you?
1. You begin to consciously "think about staying sober".
When you do that, two things happen:
a. You have the will power and can use it -- on taking the actions that are necessary to stay sober and to have the drinking obsession removed.
b. Your powerful subconscious begins to work for you -- rather than work against you. It hears "stay sober"... so, it takes it as a command to "sober" rather than "drink".
2. You begin to "act as if you're staying sober".
How do you do that?
You begin doing the things -- taking the actions -- that are necessary to stay sober.
The actions to stay sober are not the same as the actions to "not drink". "Not drinking" is the results -- of the actions taken -- to stay sober.
So, think about staying sober! And, "do sober".
You can have someone handcuff you to a pole or lock you in a cage -- and, you won't drink.
Or... you can start "living and doing and having your being in sobriety" and you won't have to worry about ever drinking again.
It works -- or I wouldn't be here, sober... to tell you about it!
Don't you think you'd be with a crazy person that doesn't care about you, if you had a pistol pointed in your mouth, and you said "hey! I can't do this! I can't pull the trigger!" --- and they said "Really? Do you have a shooting yourself problem? Do you have a death problem?"
Well. when an alcoholic puts a drink to in their mouth -- it's going to kill them just like the loaded pistol will -- only, it usually does it much slower and more painfully.
Who cares that you can't drink? The only one that's important in regards to that question, is you! Drinking alcohol will kill you if you're alcoholic. It's poison for you. Why not surround yourself with a bunch of "friends and family" that don't give a crap about you -- and only give a crap about you having a drink with them? Hey... alcoholics are desparate for friends... and they always need someone elses approval!
If you have to worry about being "tempted to drink"... it only means that you still have the mind of an alcoholic. So, why not get rid of the alcoholic mind -- so that you can react sanely and normal? The sane and normal thing for an alcoholic to do is: stay sober!