Day 1... uncertain...

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Postby MRFUNTIME » Wed Dec 29, 2010 6:58 pm

DAY 3!

Sunlight, what is a big book? I'm doing pretty good... to all of you who have showed concern. Just knowing there are others out there who know where I'm coming from or who have been where I am before makes a HUGE difference. I haven't went to an AA meeting yet because I've been sick with a cold since Tuesday. However, I fully plan on going. Either tomorrow or New Years. Are AA meetings open on New Years? I think that's going to be a rough night for me...

Dallas, thank you so much for all of your support and encouragement. Any information you gather I will certainly take the time to look through and see if I can use any of it to help me. I also like the idea of using what you gather for me to help other veterans. Thank You very much.

Thank You to everyone :)

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Postby Dallas » Wed Dec 29, 2010 10:39 pm

Great to hear from you and great to be able to congratulate you on Day Three!!!! Congratulations!

When I first read your post I thought you were currently in a battle field. Did I get that wrong? I used another source on the Internet to send out an S.O.S. along those lines and I've had some guys, one that mentioned he's also AKO or something like that and said you'd know what it meant. They've given me private email addresses to give to you to contact them if they can be of help. I don't want to post them here in public but if you'll use the Private Message feature here on the forum and want those connections let me know and I'll get some to you A.S.A.P.

Wishing you the best! And, I'm hoping -- that you'll be able to help in getting info and resources together that we can get together and get it out to those in service and to veterans out of the service, too!

When I was a little kid, my dad was often in and out of V.A. Hospitals. I guess that was the beginning of me forming some sort of consciousness about soldiers, their service and their special needs. Then, when I was newly sober in A.A. I got involved into taking what we call "panel A.A. meetings" into V.A. Hospitals in Southern California. What a help it was to helping me stay sober!!! And, at three years sober, one of my Sobriety Brothers in AA, had formed a group of AA's to go into VA Hospitals and sing Christmas Caroles. I'll tell you -- I hadn't cried in years -- but when I did that -- I flooded the halls with tears trying to sing those songs!

I was a youngster through the Vietnam era. I was a late bloomer and my drinking didn't get started until I was 12. Yea. I know. Some of us are slower! :lol: And, I started getting into trouble a lot by the time I turned 13. When I was 18 and could register for the Draft & enlist, I did, because many of my old school friends were going to Vietnam -- but not coming back like they went. My problem was: they wouldn't take me! And, that really got under my skin! I had heard of other kids that had gotten in trouble and they were given a choice of jail or military and they went military. They straightened up, too. (I think that was one of my wishes -- that I could get into the military and it would straighten me out). But, evidently, I was too much of a bad apple. I often wondered if it had something to do w/ me offering to take my own guns, having me parachute in by myself -- and trying to convince them that single-handed I could end the war for them! :lol:

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Postby sunlight » Wed Dec 29, 2010 10:48 pm

So so happy to hear this is day 3 :D and the start of many more to come, one day at a time.

The big book is the book that explains what alcoholism is and gives the precise directions on how to recover. It's titled, "Alcoholics Anonymous".
I'm sure you can find it at any library, or that Dallas can send you one .

If you are an alcoholic, you will find yourself in there!
When I read it I wondered "How did they know all about me?" I knew then that I wasn't alone anymore and when I went to my first meeting I was welcomed so warmly I wanted to cry at the relief I felt at not being a freak.

There are many meetings on new years eve. My AA club stays open all night with music, dancing, games and lots of yummy food.

Keep on posting. We all love celebrating your days sober.

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Postby Toddy » Thu Dec 30, 2010 5:01 pm

an old timer darn near gave me every chip he had earned when i sheepishly told him i was 7 days sober, he made me feel very proud and even more welcome remarkable people in a remarkableprogram. way to go fun

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Postby Larry H. » Fri Dec 31, 2010 6:16 pm

I am retired Navy and like most of us I had no idea what to expect at an AA meeting. I have included some information that may ease your worry.

I go to meetings to hear voices other than my own

How to get through your first Alcoholics Anonymous Meeting

originated by:Ljp26, Maluniu

Nobody wants to go to their first Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting. Everyone is afraid. AA welcomes everyone, and you don't need to meet any requirements. If you've ever thought of going, or have been told you must go, here's what to do.

1 Find a meeting. There are lots of sources. Call the nearest Alcoholics Anonymous Intergroup office, visit, ask a church pastor or anyone you might know in recovery. Many cities have hundreds, or even over a thousand AA meetings each week.

2 Pick a compatible meeting. If you're going because you are curious about AA, go to an "open" meeting, which is for anyone. Closed meetings are only for people who have decided they have a problem with alcohol and want to stop drinking. Some meetings are for men only or women only, are foreign language speaking or are for other special groups. The sources above can guide you to the right meeting.

3 Ask for a ride if you don't have a way to get there. The local AA office can usually arrange for someone who is going to the meeting to pick you up.

4 Get there early. Many meetings are held in churches. Watch what door people go in so you can follow them to the right room. If you aren't sure if you're at the right place, ask someone if it is the meeting for "friends of Bill W."

5 Expect to see all kinds of people there: young, old, worn-down, elegant. They may be very different than you. You might be surprised that so many people look healthy and happy. They are all there for the same reason no matter how they look on the outside.

6 Relax. You aren't required to do or believe anything. You don't have to say a word.

7 Watch how the meeting works. They usually begin with volunteers reading from AA literature, followed by a group discussion, book study or featured speaker.

8 Sometimes the leader will ask if anyone is at their first AA meeting. If you want, you can raise your hand and give your first name.

9 Listen. You will get a lot out of your first meeting by hearing others' experiences. You might not understand all the discussion, but try to find something you can relate to.

10 When they pass the basket for donations, you do not have to contribute. If you want to, the normal contribution is $1 or $2 in the U.S. Don't give more than what others are giving.

11 Take a white chip if offered. Some groups give chips to people have been sober for a length of time. They also give a white chip to anyone who doesn't want to drink just for one day. Chips are reminders to help you stay sober. They are free.

12 Ask the chairperson after the meeting for a directory that shows where and when meetings are held. You can go to as many meetings as you want. If you go to a second meeting located near the first one, you might recognize people that were at the first meeting.


Meetings start on time. Plan to get there early and stay late so people can introduce themselves.

If you get there late, it's OK. Just go in and sit down.

Tell someone you are new. They will probably introduce you to others.

Go sober and not high. Otherwise the experience won't be very useful.

During the meeting, don't ask questions or talk to anyone in the group directly, even if it seems like someone is talking directly to you. Stay after the meeting to ask questions or tell them your story.

There is a lot of laughter in AA meetings. It's also OK to cry.

If you see someone there that you know, don't worry that they will "tell on you." They are probably there for the same reason you are.

Go to a different meeting if you don't hear anything that you can relate to. Each meeting has a unique personality.

If people give you their phone numbers, they want to help if you need it. Call them before you take a drink. Say that they gave you their number at the meeting and you want to drink.


Never drive with alcohol in your system, even if you think you need to get to an AA meeting right away. Get someone to give you a ride instead.

The group might ask you to leave and come back another day if you are disruptive or start rambling about something other than alcohol.

Once you get home don't talk about who was there or what they said. One of AA's mottos is "Who you see here, what you hear here, let it stay here."

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