A long time ago, I read a poem titled "I'd rather see a Sermon than Hear One."
I thought of how well the poem fit us alcoholics.
We were ALWAYS preaching how "This time it's for good! I'm going to quit! I'm going to do what's right from now on -- and, by the way... just in case you didn't know... here is some more of the stuff I've been doing... so go ahead and forgive me of this... because I won't be doing that any more either!"
And... in a few hours, or days, or weeks, and/or sometimes months... we'd be right back to where we were before we started! Doing the same ol' same ol'.
And... our friends & families & kids would end up hating us all the more for it!
Why? Because we kept getting their hopes up -- and then we'd let them down. We were telling them things that "we thought" we could do -- but we were Powerless over doing! We didn't have the Power... nor the structure & self-discipline to carry out doing what we told them we would do! And, rightly so, they would get ticked at us!
It's best to keep our mouths shut -- most of the time!
I try to live by the rule of "show them" rather than "tell them." If I haven't told them -- then, I'm not letting them down, when I fail to "show them" that I'm making progress.
Our loved one's don't want to "hear" our songs & dances... they want to "see" our progress.
So, we keep quiet. We do the work quietly... getting better and better. We don't bring it up w/ them. We wait until some time in the future that "they" bring it up with something like "Remember when you used to do this or that? You don't do that anymore!" -- We know what they are talking about -- but, we act like "Oh really? I haven't thought about it! Thank God, I'm not doing that anymore, aye?"