Sometimes -- it seems as though the only time alcoholics can agree w/ each other is -- after a few drinks.
I know for myself, there are some things that I'm really flexible on. I try to keep my mind open and have a willingness to look at some things from different angles. Yet, there are other things -- based upon my experience -- I'm not real flexible and open-minded on. Perhaps, perfectly imperfect is the way I'm cut out to be.
The only authority here on this site -- is the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and the 12 Steps as they are laid out in the book. We try to pretty much stay with the black ink on the white pages, line upon line, and paragraph with paragraph, and let that be our guide, as we try to set our opinions or interpretations aside and let the book speak for itself. The book either says what it says or it doesn't.
In Chapter 2, There Is A Solution -- page 17, near the bottom of the page, it reads "The tremendous fact for every one of us is that we have
discovered a common solution. We have a way out on which we can absolutely agree, and upon which we can join in brotherly and harmonious action. This is the great news this book carries to those who suffer from alcoholism."
I read that for a long time trying to figure out: "What the heck is it that we can all ABSOLUTELY agree on?"
We can't agree on God, which is why we have the loop-hole of "God as we understand God" and we can't seem to agree on much else. So, it can't be God. And, this was written long before the Traditions -- so it can't be the 12 Traditions.
Then, one day, as I was reading it, in comparison to the Preface & Forward to the First Edition of the Big Book, it kind of jumped out at me: What is the common solution? It's the 12 Steps -- as they are described in the book. That's our solution. And, we can join in brotherly and harmonious action -- regarding the 12 Steps, as the "method" -- "our common solution" to recover from alcoholism -- and to help other alcoholics through the message of the 12 Steps. Which, was the precise reason that they wrote the book.