I prefer to think of myself not as a victim of my problems, but as a survivor. Being a victim opens up wounds in a way that allows me wallow in self-pity, resentment, bitterness, discontent, and anger at my life. I find that I can even take a certain pride in my victimhood. This does not help me and, in fact, makes me a prisoner of the past rather than a person who has survived and is capable of change when confronted with problems.
Calling myself a victim invites more victimization from people and situations. As a survivor I can learn to sail through the roughest storms. I may not be able to change the wind, but I can adjust my sails. With the help of God and others, I do not need to be a victim. As a survivor I can face the future confidently with the knowledge that I have the tools I need to face any problem that arises. And if God is for me, who can be against me.