I should first label this as: "Dallas B.'s - Eight Things that Determine My Day and Future, because you may only have Seven, or someone else may have 12. The Eight Things that Determine My Day and Future.
What I've learned, from my own experience is: It's Eight things that determine my day and future: 1. Physical Sobriety 2. Emotional Sobriety 3. Spiritual Sobriety 4. Maturity 5. Structure. 6. Discipline 7. Honesty 8. My actions. And, EACH of these Eight MUST be securely linked together.
I wanted to be sure to "own" this, because it's NOT from a page in the Big Book or some other book. It's based upon my personal experience & observations.
Recently, a person was suffering the loss of a friend in recovery that took her life. Trying to figure out the mystery, she came to the conclusion that it was a "lack of attending meetings."
I understand searching for the mysteries.
However, I've known people who were active in the Fellowship -- went to a meeting the night before, and a noon meeting on the day of -- taking their life.
So, while I encourage ALL people to attend meetings regularly -- I recognize that meetings is not the answer.
At the same time -- over the last 25 yrs -- I can identify for myself "had I not been in that meeting" I would have lost my life and would not be here today to write this. So, for me, I do consider meetings as mandatory -- even though before my last drunk, nearly 27 yrs ago (a drink that lasted for six months) -- I had been to a meeting the night before and had been going to meetings 3 & 4x per day for six months before the drunk.
What I've concluded, from my own experience is, it's Eight things, that determine my day and my future: 1. Physical Sobriety 2. Emotional Sobriety. 3. Spiritual Sobriety. 4. Maturity. 5. Structure. 6. Discipline. 7. Honesty. 8. My actions. And, EACH of these seven MUST be securely linked together.