Buck, if I were you... I'd listen to my sponsor (since you do have one).
I've seen this kind of stuff really get under member's skins and some nasty resentments get started, and it takes a huge toll on their sobriety.
I've also had much worse situations than this happen to myself, alkies that I was helping, and some that I have sponsored.
Sometimes, we just got to grit our teeth and walk away from it. Talk to our sponsor about it. Get some suggestions from the sponsor on how to deal with it.
Anger is something that we can't afford... and with us we can't judge it by whether the anger is justified or not.
I was just going to write a real live bad case scenario that recently happened to one of our newcomers... but it's so sickening that I won't mention it here.... and it was all done by the same person who claims to have been a sober AA member for 15 years... and recently I found out she brags about how many AA members that she has driven back to drinking. Figure that one out???
Sometimes some really crappy stuff is going to happen to us, but we made a decision when we started this thing, that we were willing to go to any lengths to be free from alcohol. And, sometimes, those lengths can become farther than anything we ever imagined.
On the bright side though, from my own experience I can tell you that AA is responsible for a life that is better than anything I could ever have imagined for myself. It's the only good life I've ever had and I wouldn't trade it for anything... I still get disturbed from time to time. I'm not perfect... yet
but those distrubances do get smaller and smaller and the happiness gets greater and greater.
The rumors and gossip and other stuff that can be brought about by others can really hurt our loved ones... but nothing will hurt them more than our continued drinking. We have a chance, by staying sober, to make it up to them.
Thanks for letting me share.