Dallas, I would add a rule #3 Train your knees. I've never heard of a sober alcoholic who relapsed on a day they sought through prayer and meditation to improve their conscious contact with God. Buck, you're absolutely right at least Tonya came back to us without letting any guilt or shame keep her from us. Tonya, thanks for coming back. You are still alive after a relapse, so you have another shot. Every relapse taunts the Reaper.
"The alcoholic at certain times has no effective mental defense against the first drink. Neither he nor any other human being can provide such a defense. His defense must come from a Higher Power." (BB pg. 43)
"Men and women drink essentially because they like the effect produced by alcohol. The sensation is so elusive that, while they admit it is injurious, they cannot after a time differentiate the true from the false. To them, their alcoholic life seems the only normal one. They are restless, irritable and discontented, unless they can again experience the sense of ease and comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks - drinks they see others taking with impunity. After they have succumbed to the desire again, as so many do, and the phenomenon of craving develops, they pass through the well-known stages of a spree, emerging remorseful, with a firm resolution not to drink again. This is repeated over and over, and unless this person can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery.
On the other hand - and strange as this may seem to those who do not understand - once a psychic change has ocurred, the very same person who seemed doomed, who had so many problems he despaired of ever solving them, suddenly finds himself easily able to control his desire for alcohol, the only effort necessary being that required to follow a few simple rules." (Dr.'s Opinion BB)
The doctor said (Dr. Jung) "You have the mind of a chronic alcoholic. I have never seen one single case recover, where that state of mind existed to the extent that it does in you." The alcoholic felt as though the gates of hell had closed on him with a clang. He said to the doctor, "Is there no exception?"
"Yes," replied the doctor. "there is. Exceptions to cases such as yours have been occurring since early times. Here and there, once in awhile, alcoholics have had what are called vital spiritual experiences. To me these occurrences are phenomena. They appear to be in the nature of huge emotional disturbances and rearrangements. Ideas, emotions, and attitudes which were once the guiding forces of the lives of these men are suddenly cast to one side, and a completely new set of conceptions and motives begin to dominate them. In fact, I have been trying to produce some such emotional rearrangement within you. With many individuals the methods which I employed are successful, but I have never been successful with an alcoholic of your description."
Upon hearing this, our friend was somewhat relieved, for he reflected that, after all, he was a good church member. This hope, however, was destroyed by the doctor's telling him that while his religious convictions were very good, in this case they did not spell the necessary vital spiritual experience." (BB pg. 27)
"Lack of power, that was our dilemma. We had to find a power by which we could live, and it had to be a Power greater than ourselves. Obviously. But where and how were we to find this Power?
Well that's exactly what this book (BB) is about. Its main object is to enable you to find a Power greater than yourself which will solve your problem."
Tonya, I think I read that you go to church and your pastor recommended AA. AA works for alcoholics because it provides a specific course of action called the 12 steps that has been proven to work for alcoholics. Even though I relapsed after 19 years of sobriety and currently have been sober since August 20, 2005 I know that the 12 steps of AA will keep you sober.
The steps provide a process for us to remove what is blocking us from the sunlight of the Spirit. The Spiritual awakening or psychic change or huge emotional rearrangements occur after we have completed all of the steps. Step 12 says "Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps . . ." The steps are the only answer I am aware of for recovery from alcoholism. If there was another answer, we would know about it. The entire medical community that deals with treatment sends their charges to 12 steps programs.
I guess I'm just saying, start doing the steps. Do the steps as if your life depends upon it, because it does.
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