I wish the best for you Tim.
In 1993, I started taking care of my mom. The docs said she had only 6 months to live. I started taking care of her out of responsibility and to be sure that I had been complete to her and my deceased father, in regards to making all my amends complete. I took care of her until about August of last year, when my amends were complete, and now my sister has her. That's a long six months!
I believe that when we're attempting to do the things, and we are doing the things that we know that we should be doing... there definitly is a "in God's time and not our time" in regards to life and health matters.
I also believe in the 12 steps effectiveness when applied to other matters like the physical body and health.
When I started taking care of my mom, my thoughts were "alcoholism is also a physical dis-ease" along with it being a mental and emotional dis-ease, and people all over the world are using the 12 Steps to treat their individual needs... do I decided to try it with my mom.
It worked wonders for the both of us.... and we're both still alive, with improved health. No scientific research to back anything up... but I do have results, and that's really all that matters to me is the results.
Tim, I appreciate you sharing your experience here with us. It means a lot to me and it's like having your hand reach out to help me along this path of life.
Best to you, and keep coming back!