psychological disorders and recovery

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psychological disorders and recovery

Postby c0rnfl8kgrl » Mon Jul 10, 2006 12:59 pm

Hello all. My name is Aja and I'm an alcoholic. It took me a few months to come to terms with that truth once it was pointed out to me. I am one of those intellectual, high-bottom, responsible on the outside/ self-loathing mess on the inside, self-medicate by getting quietly soused every evening drunks. I'm sure someone out there relates. My question is, for those of us with mood disorders, chronic depression, and self destructive coping mechanisms like bulemia and cutting (on top of and now instead of drinking/ drugging), is going to AA and working the steps enough? Can I ever be free of all this? Thanks for letting me share.

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We're not professionals

Postby Dallas » Mon Jul 10, 2006 3:28 pm

Good morning Aja,

Nice to hear from you.

Your question seems to be a question that should be asked to some sort of a professional that would be qualified to answer that kind of question. We don’t discuss anything here that would get into the realm of professional.

How’s the weather today? :wink: I hope it’s better than yesterday!


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Postby cinderbobble » Mon Jul 10, 2006 3:40 pm

Hi Aja...

In reference to our BB, it does point out that we do not decry professionals in the medical community. I would not wish to lead you down a blind alley with uninformed opinions, therefore I would support Dallas' response. I would like to say though, that you would have a much better chance of tackling these issues without the drink, and you will find much support in the AA fellowship for that anytime! In my experience, I sought out counselling which helped me a great deal, because I had so much trouble controlling my anger issues. I also enlisted the help of a sponsor who is dedicated to this program of recovery, and it took them years to 'love me til I could love myself.' Fortunately most of that time I did not realize I was in the dark about this stuff, and still go there, but I'm not drinking, and I am a somewhat more responsible citizen. I have two jobs, and am pretty active in our fellowship. (I open one meeting a week).

Aja, this fellowship welcomes anybody who has a desire to quit drinking. My best suggestions are: 1) don't drink and go to meetings, 2) buy the book, Alcoholics Anonymous and read it and 3) Get a sponsor and work the steps!

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Postby c0rnfl8kgrl » Mon Jul 10, 2006 6:56 pm

Thank you both for replies. I have begun talking to a therapist. I do believe in going to the right specialist for the right problem. You wouldn't take your car to a plumber, right?! But I will take your suggestion, go to meetings, get a sponsor, all that. I don't think I'll be able to stay sober without it and I definitely have a harder time dealing with the other issues when drinking. I'm an instant gratification kind of person though, and was really hoping someone would say "yes, this program cures everything, and does it right now!". No such luck. But I'm fighting hard for my sobriety and sanity now! Whatever it takes.

The weather is beautiful today, by the way!!! Hotter than Hades, but beautiful!

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Postby Rusty Zipper » Tue Jul 11, 2006 1:09 pm

cornflake, nce to meet you..i will say this from expereance.. when you find something that works, please dont STOP... it can kill.... just try to keep moving foward....

all good wishes cornflake, and give only love..... RZ

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Postby c0rnfl8kgrl » Tue Jul 11, 2006 1:46 pm

Thanks Rusty. Who knew this "one day at a time" thing was so literal! I am grateful now for the good days when they come (gratitude is an amazing thing!) and as long as I don't hurt myself on the bad ones, then I'm doing alright! And if I had known there was this world of understanding and support out here, I would have reached out long ago!

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Postby anniemac » Tue Jul 11, 2006 8:21 pm

Hello Aja,

As has been said, I certainly believe that outside help is there for the taking and there's nothing wrong with that.

What can get quite confusing for me, though, is when the two methods seem to clash ~~ i.e., in therapy I am to analyze and look at what caused it (whatever "it" may be) while in AA I am not to concern myself with the "whys" and turn it all over to God for a spiritual solution.

I'm not sure how to merge the two, so I end up analyzing my turning it over! :shock:

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Postby Buck V » Wed Jul 12, 2006 2:05 am


One day, one hour, one minute, sometimes one heartbeat at a time. They all add up to life. Keep coming back. There are a bunch of folks here to to listen and to share and to help if they can.

Take care and God bless,


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Postby 918gma » Wed Jul 12, 2006 2:52 am

I was glad to see your post. I too was one that discovered that drinking was my solution, not my problem. Once I took that solution away, the #$^%& really hit the fan.
I am grateful to know that there are professionals out there that understand and can help. Stay with them, but like you also said, don't sell the solution short. It has worked miracles for me, and will for you too, if you are willing to follow directions.
As I work through the solution, over and over again, I gain more understanding about me and what makes me tick. That along with the help of my doctor, I am getting better all the time.
Good luck and keep with it and us, Kathy

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Postby campsurf » Wed Aug 23, 2006 1:17 pm

The answer is Yes....

Many Alcoholic/addicts self medicate....depression is only one thing we medicate. Getting outside help is encouraged and works well in conjunction with any spiritual program as long as you follow directions... Humility is the ability to remain matter how smart we are. Asking for help is paramount for those of us that want to remain in of the reason we came to the program was our way didn't work too well... being willing is also a form of humility... and today, I am willing to take advice, follow direction and use knowledge from those that have traveled to "places" I know nothing about.

I do wish the AA program wasn't so oriented to Men, I believe women have some different issues than men but I also think sponsorship can fill that difference.


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