The St. Francis prayer says, "It is by forgiving that one is forgiven."
To me, that means I make the first move. Step 9 was a big help in doing that. Move or get drunk again. Ok, I'm moving!
Some people didn't accept my amends, but I still felt free & forgiven because I'd done all I could to make it right. I couldn't change the past, but I could do better right here, right now.
Unforgiveness keeps me in bondage! I do not relish the idea of being in bondage to anyone
(my boss on the broom comes to mind), so I aim at behaving in a kind, open manner, without being servile or scraping, to those who are unkind to me.
And I certainly don't want to be in bondage to myself! What a drag. So, if my Father has forgiven me my trespasses as I have forgiven those who have trespassed against me, then who am I not to forgive myself?
Sometimes guilt gets mixed in there, but my pastor likes to point out that the purpose of guilt is to motivate you to change. Other than that it's pointless. He says to wallow in guilt without intending to change is just trying to fool yourself that you're actually DOING something about your behavior. I've been there!
So, it's HELLO STEP 11!
"We must be careful not to drift into worry, remorse or morbid reflection, for that would diminish our usefulness to others. After making our review (of our day) we ask God's forgiveness and inquire what corrective measures should be taken."
Simple. Beautiful. My Father forgives me, & I want to be like my Father, so I
Then I can get to having fun packing good things into the stream of life!
Thanks for the topic. You're good at them!