Dallas, Your Oct. 11 post gave me pause for thought. I think it is funny that you say you are un-spiritual when you practice a program of action that gives you a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of your spiritual condition. The BB says "the spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it." I'm not the brightest bulb on the tree sometimes, so I must be missing something.
Don't you think prayer is taking action?
I'm curious about how you use the detailed instructions of steps 4-10 without constant prayer?
The detailed instructions in my BB tells me to pray while I am writing my 4th step.
Regarding resentments, BB pg. 66: This was our course: We realized that the people who wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick. Though we did not like their symptoms and the way these disturbed us, they like ourselves, were sick too. We asked God (prayer) to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend...God (prayer) save me from being angry. Thy will be done."
Regarding fear BB pg 68: We ask Him (prayer) to remove our fear and direct our attention to what he would have us be.
Regarding sex BB pg 69: We ask God (prayer) to mold our ideals and help us to live up to them. We ask God (prayer) what we should do about each specific matter. pg. 70 We earnestly pray for the right ideal, for guidance in each questionable situation, for sanity, and for the strength to do the right thing.
After I do step 5 I am to return home and BB pg. 75 "Thank God from the bottom of my heart that we know Him better."
Step 6 Am I willing? If not BB pg. 76 If we still cling to something we will not let go, we ask God (prayer) to help us be willing.
Step 7 prayer "My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding, Amen."
Step 8 We already have list. However, we should review it and make sure it is a complete list of people we have harmed.
Step 9 BB pg 83 "So we clean house with the family, asking each morning in meditation that our Creator show us the way of patience, tolerance, kindliness and love."
Step 10 BB pg 84 Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up, we ask God (prayer) at once to remove them. Pg. 85 Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of God's will into all of our activities. "How can I best serve Thee (prayer) - Thy will (not mine) be done (prayer)."
I hope you can see my confusion about what you have written on October 11 regarding "taking action", the twelve step method, spiritual vs. un-spiritual and prayer vs. steps 4-10 and I hope you will help me to understand more clearly the proper use of this information from the perspective of your experience, strength and hope.
Thank you for all you do on this site, Dallas, and for giving us a place to learn and grow when a meeting isn't available.
Easy Does It,