Those Other People!

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Those Other People!

Postby Dallas » Mon Sep 28, 2009 6:27 am

Those Other People

"Just like you, I have often thought myself the victim of what other
people say and do. Yet every time I confessed the sins of such
people, especially those whose sins did not correspond exactly with
my own, I found that I only increased the total damage. My own
resentment, my self-pity would often render me well-nigh useless to

"So, nowadays, if anyone talks of me so as to hurt, I first ask myself if
there is any truth at all in what they say. If there is none, I try to
remember that I too have had my periods of speaking bitterly of
others; that hurtful gossip is but a symptom of our remaining
emotional illness; and consequently that I must never be angry at the
unreasonableness of sick people.

"Under very trying conditions I have had, again and again, to forgive
others--also myself. Have you recently tried this?"

Letter, 1946

As Bill Sees It , p.268


I understand.

One of the most harmful things that I've experienced in the Fellowship is
hurtful gossip. It's a real tough one to deal with. The solution above is one that I learned to use a long time ago -- and it's helpful for me to remember it.


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Postby ccs » Mon Sep 28, 2009 11:40 pm

Oh yeah the power of the tounge (its sharper than a two edged sword)

just when I think I`m not practicing my program I relize that I really am

just last week something at work with a coworker was going on and my first reaction was of course not the right one :shock: but I (pondered it) before I did or said anything all that pondering was me actually useing the tools of my program to come to a conclusion of what does it really matter anyway I`m sick she`s sick and 2 sicks do not make a well!!

I prayed for her and for help to do the right thing wich was nothing at all and two days later she texts me this really insightful little prayer thing
I text her back thankyou for reminding me ! she says your welcome!!
now the air is cleared and we are joking around with eachother again she`s even friend requested me on facebook since then :o

so even when I think that I`m far from the program GOD takes over and reminds me to practice it and ask HIM for help

Thanks D that was right inline with whats up with me HOW did you Know that :shock:
LUV-2-ALL Cess

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Postby Dallas » Tue Sep 29, 2009 3:43 am

Thank you, Cessie. I appreciate you -- and all that you do for me, with every post that I read from you! It really makes my day!


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Postby Serenity Seeker » Mon Jan 16, 2012 1:21 pm

Needed to hear that. I have had recent experience with people I totally respect in the program that have been around a while, taking others inventory, judging them, right or wrong that is not who I want to be today. I am working toward change. And talking about someone else's sobriety is not in that category.


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Postby Toast » Sat Feb 04, 2012 1:16 pm

My pet hate is people whispering to one another in meetings, what is there to whisper about, why so secretive? :?

My mind tells me if they were speaking the honest truth there would be no need to whisper. It then tells me they must be either gossiping about a fellow member or doing a character assassination on someone? 8)

Then the rescuer in me wants to find out who it is so i can save them from these gossips! Then the hairs on the back of my neck stand to attention and my body goes on amber alert as i scan the room looking for the victim so i can save him/her! :shock:

Then i remind myself its nothing to do with me and if i see something i dont like in a meeting all i've got to do is make sure i dont do it. :lol:

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Postby Dallas » Sat Feb 04, 2012 1:37 pm

I understand that on! I have to remind myself that -- some people are simply reminding me -- by what they do -- what I should not do." :lol:

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