sparklek wrote:"Pain--though painful, causes an amazing, guaranteed human response--an urgent search for a solution. If we get burned, we seek to cool it. If we get cut we seek to bandage it. Drugs and alcohol are a route of escape for some going through financial hardship because the numbing effect leads to momentary forgetfulness. Forgetting does not allow the pain to go away so inevitably, the pain and the cause of the pain lingers long beyond what it might have, becoming even more complicated."
Thanks for that. I certainly need to remember that pain is useful because it does have a tendency to drive me to my knees. It takes me to the positive actions that help me to remember "This Too Shall Pass." Suddenly, like right now, I am not alone. I know my HP has me right where I need to be and I can rest. Yeah! Now I can rest Thanks all.
Serenity Seeker wrote:have placed all effort at the best of my ability (key of willingness) into action
Dallas wrote:Serenity Seeker wrote:have placed all effort at the best of my ability (key of willingness) into action
I like that! It's one of the best definitions of actual willing-ness that I've read.
When sitting and talking w/ my first sponsor, he asked me about being willing -- in regards to the Third Step. I replied "I don't know if I can do that!"
After we talked some more, he finally asked me a double-binding question: "Dallas, can you be willing to be willing, to be willing to be willing?" And, I replied: "I think I can do that!" (I also figured I'd really look like a real fool if I couldn't do that!)
Willing to grow: "have I placed all effort at the best of my ability into action?"
Willing to change: "have I placed all effort at the best of my ability into action?"
At times, "my ability" was so diminished -- that I needed the loving and helping hand of a sponsor, or an AA friend, that could guide me into taking baby steps, so that I could identify and determine "what my ability was" so that I could have a reasonable starting point -- and begin to place all of my best efforts towards that starting point "of action" -- which would move me forward. The key being ACTION. Am I do-ing something different? Am I using all my best effort -- towards the action that I need to take, to change? If yes, then I can say that I am indeed willing. Or, am I simply "thinking" that I am willing -- by thinking about being willing? The action and effort is the acid test that determines the true from the false.
Thanks for sharing it!
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