You aren't still beating yourself up, are you? Yep, you got mad. Yep, you lost your temper. Yep, you were a part of the problem by letting it go on a little too long. So, what did you do? You fixed the problem to the best of your ability. The choices your daughter makes are up to her. And she always has the option to "change her mind". But she's got to come to those decisions on her own.
You did all the right things. You went to your sponsor. You practiced your steps. You used the tools you had. We can't change the things we've done. That's history.
The book says(page 60) "No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to the priciples. We are not saints. The point is we are willing to grow along spirtual lines. The principles we have set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spirtiual perfection."
From everything you wrote, it sounds like you were unable to maintain perfect adherence to the principles. And guess what? You weren't a saint, either. Imagine that??
But, it sure sounds like you were and are willing to grow and keep making progress!!!!!
You must be doing something right!
Hehehe....you know enough about me by now to know that I'm hardly a saint myself!
I have a pretty insane family. Is part of that my fault? Sure it is! I'm not perfect and never will be. But I am willing to grow and make progress(occasionally I have to be reminded that I am willing, though!
) Sometimes I just have to take myself out of the picture or drive myself nuts! And sometimes that acutally even works!!!!