Dallas gave you some good ideas. The bottom line is it helps to make lists. I'm going to try to keep this simple but I not might be able to.
Let me tell you what fun means to me. Fun means doing some kind of activity that makes me feel good about myself. And it also helps me make spiritual progress.
I'll bet you like ice cream and its probably fun to go to the ice cream parlor on a hot summer night and suck down a sundae. But it also can be fun if you learn how to bake a fresh apple pie and throw a scoop or two of vanilla ice cream on top right after you pull it out of the oven. Boy that Allah Mode Apple Pie is good stuff! Well if you learn how to bake a tasty apple pie, you feel good about yourself and grow spiritually and maybe a belt notch or two. Then on a hot Saturday night you can invite a girl with less days sober than you over to your house for some Apple Pie and ice cream and read or work the program together. You both stay sober and you have fun and you grow spiritually.
A guy told me this: "Happiness is the byproduct of a life well-lived". Boy did that ever sink in! So if I'm living my life well, like "practicing these principles in all our affairs", then the "byproduct" is going to be "happiness" or "fun". So I don't really set out to have fun - I just learn and do activities that make me feel good about myself and that help me grow spiritually.
So you said you're pretty new to being sober which means your big fat self-centered ego controls you more than the needs of other people. So you need to get over yourself. The best way for me to do that is what the book says to help another alcoholic. Or I can also help someone who's not a drunk. The main point is doing something helpful for somebody other than me where I don't get anything in return. That takes my mind off of me.
Here's something to work on:
Amy S wrote:I've only been sober for a short amount of time and I can't seem to find anything fun to do that's cheap and doesn't include bars or booze.
I'm going to "suggest" a change for you that you might have to remind yourself every day for a while. "Fun" never includes "booze" or "taking drugs" or "using" or "drinking alcohol". What you were thinking of as fun was not really fun but a big fat lie your mind told you if you are an alcoholic which you said you are.
There is never a way on this earth that killing brain cells by drinking or taking a poisonous chemical substance can be made into "having fun". We alcoholics would call this "denial". What the "effect" of getting drunk or getting high was that "intense" feeling which comes from soaking our brains with poisonous chemicals - and then those chemicals destroying brain cells - and then other brain cells trying to immediately do the things the dead ones used to do. That is not "fun" - that is insanity!
Now if you are interested, I'll share with you an exercise that was in my devotional that I did just a couple days ago. It said to do this: "Today I'll list the things I like to do for fun. I'll add three things I'd like to try over the next three months."
Now I'm going to be totally honest here and give you exactly what I wrote down. Don't laugh too hard!
Eating out at a nice restaurant
Working on my truck
Going to AA events
Shopping for little things (stuff I always forget to buy like a can opener)
Selling stuff on ebay
the three things over the next three months:
Go to garage sales
Finish the woodwork
Now most of these things are for me to enjoy and probably look self-centered. But the exercise was designed to help me become aware of what fun is to me and to do things that are fun every now and then. Most of them also involve other people having fun together such as with a buddy (not the sex thing!) or a loved one. And also most of them help me to feel good about myself and to grow spiritually.
Now because I mentioned "sex" and that goes with relationships I'll say this. I was sober a long long time before that ever happened - all in all I didn't have sex or a relationship for ten years. But that's just me - but at all times SOBRIETY comes first and that can work with a relationship. It takes work and planning to go to a lot of meetings and work a program with other alcoholics while having someone special in your life. But it can be done and it is nice when it works out - really nice.