littlemis wrote:Right...I'm trying to determine exactly HOW to go about getting sober...hope that doesn't sound dumb ...but where to start...
"but where to start..."
You start... by not having the next start!
After you take that next drink... you get sober and stay sober... by not taking the next start! (drink).
It's that simple!!!
Then, you use all the will power you've got -- (which will not be enough, but you must use all that you've got) -- to get your tush over to AA -- and ask for some help!
Then, you use all the will power you've got -- (which will not be enough, but you must use all that you've got) -- to follow the suggestions that they give you.
And, in following those suggestions and those actions -- it will put you in contact with a Power that is greater than all of your will power -- and, it will begin to do for you, what you haven't been able to do for yourself.
It's the actions! Action is the magic word! You have to use all the will power that you've got -- to take the actions -- that will lead you to sobriety and will keep you sober.
You start... by taking actions. You continue... by taking actions.
Stopping is a non-action. So, you don't focus on "stopping" even though your objective will be to stop.
It's a paradox.
You focus on staying sober... you think about being sober... you take the actions to stay sober.
Your mind will attract and manifest what you think about. If you are thinking about "not drinking"... you are still thinking about "drinking."
You think about staying sober... and you take the actions to stay sober.
And, you start by asking for help! (That's an action!)
You make a decision that you want to stop drinking -- for good. Then, you ask God for help. And, God will have you go to AA to get help! It's already provided for you!
Not much of anything is going to happen... until you make that decision... that you want to stop drinking -- for good. As long as you have that reservation in your mind -- that someday, you'll be able to control and enjoy your drinking -- you're doomed. Just as soon as you let go of that reservation and desire to control and enjoy the drinking -- help is on the way.
But, to get over drinking -- if you are alcoholic -- you'll have to eventually make the decision to get over drinking, for good. Forever. (As it says in the Big Book).
So, you must answer the questions, that are in the Big Book:
1. Do you want to stop drinking for good, and forever?
2. Are you willing to go to any lengths to do it?
It will require a "yes" answer to both questions.
Without a "yes" answer to both questions -- your sobriety will be precarious... if any. And, without a "yes" answer to the first question -- you will not have enough willingness to answer "yes" to question #2.
That's where and when to start.............