There were two things that came to mind as I read your post...."what does your sponsor say?"... and since you are "I am new to AA this year"
... the slogan Easy Does IT.. came to mind.
There isn't a single person that can really tell you what to do, we can only share from our own experiences... next to resentments...relationships are the down fall of many a "sincere" recovering alcoholic... the guys I work with are advised to work through the first 9 steps before sucking someone elses life down with their crap... as a member for many yrs. we are all in the program because of relationship probelms caused by our selfishness caused by alcoholic thinking. Time is not recovery... I have seen many people that just don't drink... but the anger.. trust issues... self esteem stuff.. remain.
I for one needed to develope a relationship with myself and figure out where a higher power fit into the big picture... once I did this I was strong enough and of the right "motive" behind all relationships in my life. I can't use people, places and things to "fix" me anymore.. there is nothing worst than dealing with the wreckage of your own sobriety...early in recovery. Remember you don't have the luxury of drugs and booze to run to...
bedtime any minute now.
Remember this is like giving meat to a Tiger....try to take it back.
an acronym for RELATIONSHIP
I am not cynical, just real careful when developing relationships with the opposite sex within the program.. I have seen homegroup members date and break-up... and neither came to their home group anymore.. the other thing is that if you scratch hard enough you will find a co-dependent under every alcoholic.. Al-Anon meetings can give a good perspective of developing healthy boundaries... I learned this the hard way.. most of us AAs do.....