Thanks Paul for that right-on show-me the Steak message!!! You really had 72 ounces of beef in that one!!! If someone can eat the entire message of what you wrote... they get the goodies and won't have to pay for it!
When the International convention is in Texas, we'll have to pard'ner up together to try downing one of those huge 72 oz steak dinners down there! I look forward to it!
It's so wonderful to have you finally show up for this one!
I was thinking about you earlier today and wondering where you were what you were doing... and whether or not our goofy-ness ran you off!
I've missed you for the last few days!
tj wrote:Well, your mother was right. It will make you go blind.
That's just the point I was trying to make! I WASN'T doing it -- and I went blind!!!!
Here's how goofy I did my "no relationships in the first year."
They twisted that one on me and said "no sex for a year."
Well.... I just had to prove them wrong! And, I did!
I waited until my 2nd year to try "no sex for a year."
I was doing really good at it... and then someone said "That means... no sex with your self, either!"
Damn!!! Wouldn't you know it? I had to start the whole year all over again!
But, get a load of this unbelievable part.... I DID IT!!!!
Yep! ME!!! I was able to do it -- and I felt so proud of myself afterwards for being able to do it, honestly... which meant... starting over and not even with myself!
It made me feel so good about me. And, I could see huge significant other changes in my life and in my emotional well-being.
I felt more sensitive... but at the same time... more in control of my actions and urges.
I had a different respect for myself. I had more confidence. And, part of the awareness gain was... yes, I can live without alcohol... and yes, I could live without sex... if I had to, and it would be okay.
I could still be happy... for 12 months and a day!
Now, like I said... I'm not a saint, and I'm probably the biggest not-saint of all... because I have failed to live up to my standards that I have set for myself... (seems like I just heard some big important guy on TV saying that, too!
) ... but the doing without for a year helped me to know that I didn't have to make stupid decisions that were risky and were based upon instinctual urges.
I should probably only speak for myself here... maybe I will... so,
I believe that often... people stay in or get in bad and un-healthy relationships -- that it would do them good to get out of -- over sex, or the fear of sexual-insecurity. Either... they don't want to leave because the sex is so good... or, it's bad, too... and they are just afraid they'll end up alone and no one else will want them. The feel damaged or like they are damaged goods.... so, they are lucky to get it once in a while. (Their feelings... not mine).
It could be... they are just afraid of being alone... but, I think their sexual ideals and the instinct has a big influence on it.
The great news is: we have Steps that deal with our fears and our insecurities... and our sex problems... and all our problems, including alcohol.... and ANY man or woman CAN recover IF (as Paul so elegantly states sometimes...) they TRUST GOD and... take the actions to clean house on the inside and on the outside!