- What do you do on a sober date?

What do you do on a sober date?




Topics and discussions related to being single and or dating while in recovery

Postby Dallas » Mon Jun 15, 2009 11:18 am

Aren't you glad it was the guy that was drunk, Heather?

Hey... you might have woken up... smelled something different... felt some huge strange alien kind of creature laying next to you... and suddenly the ring on your finger really caught your attention!!! :lol: :lol:

The nice thing about when I was still drinking was: Whenever I screwed up big time -- I could always blame it on being drunk!!! :lol: :lol:

Now... I can't use that excuse... so I gotta be careful that if I go on a sober date... I come home sober!!! :lol:

Dallas
Dallas
Site Admin
 
Posts: 4781
Joined: Thu Jul 28, 2005 9:05 pm
Location: Fort Smith, Arkansas USA

Postby Dallas » Mon Jun 15, 2009 12:23 pm

Heather wrote:Now...I am looking forward to sober dates. Any takers? :wink:


Okay. Paul convinced me to change my mind! :lol: :lol:

Heather... I don't know what the heck I'm talking about!

So... again... I removed and edited my message! :wink:

Now.... let's grab hold of Paul's list...
Rent a U-Haul
and head into the sunset Baby!

Pick me! Pick me! Pick me! Pick me! Pick me! Pick me! Pick me! Pick me!

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dallas
Last edited by Dallas on Mon Jun 15, 2009 5:42 pm, edited 1 time in total.
Dallas
Site Admin
 
Posts: 4781
Joined: Thu Jul 28, 2005 9:05 pm
Location: Fort Smith, Arkansas USA

Postby Dallas » Mon Jun 15, 2009 4:25 pm

Geezzzz... sometimes it's danged if I do and danged if I don't!

[quote="12 Steps"]Step 10. “Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.â€
Last edited by Dallas on Mon Jun 15, 2009 5:38 pm, edited 2 times in total.
Dallas
Site Admin
 
Posts: 4781
Joined: Thu Jul 28, 2005 9:05 pm
Location: Fort Smith, Arkansas USA

Postby garden variety » Mon Jun 15, 2009 4:53 pm

Dallas wrote:I think that most of the eligible members here on the site – that would be worth dating -- and that would want to date you – would want to wait until you were sober for a year before they asked you out on a sober date.


:lol: :lol: :lol:
I won't be anonymous!

Dude! You hit the button! Did you do that on purpose? Are you trying to start WWIII?

"that would be worth dating" :shock:

"wait until you were sober for a year" :shock: :shock:

"and that would want to date you" :shock: :shock: :shock:

"Wasn't that a wonderful demonstration of my saintly spirituality! Heck no I'm not a Saint! And, I have no desire to be one! Nor do I want to sing in the choir!" :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:

Good gawd Dallas! I'm going to tell you what I tell my best friend, and running buddy Mike, who has 28 years sobriety -

"I can't wait to be as spiritual as you when I get 22 years!" :lol: :lol: :lol:

The anonymous guy! Bwahahahahahahahaha :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

(Really it wasn't me - I'm not afeared to slap around the big guy)

OK - Wonder where I was going with this one? :?

Oh yeah - what to do on a date.
Well I have a couple pointers that might be helpful.

1. Before the date, take a shower or bath, brush teeth, attend to your personal hygeine.

2. Going out on a date and leaving a favorable impression usually means that a car should be used instead of public transportation. The car should be all one color, with 4 safe tires and a spare tire. No dried vomit or other peculiar unidentifiable semi-solid masses which emit foul odors should be on the seats, floor, or trunk.

3. Having a valid drivers license and being clear of outstanding warrants is very helpful in traffic stops.

4. Having a job and cash money in your wallet or purse usually earns "cool points".

5. Don't marinate in cologne or perfume prior to leaving home.

6. Taking a woman out for dinner excludes the free meals served at Catholic Charities or other homeless charity centers.

These are just some basic starting points that have always been helpful to me.
garden variety
 
Posts: 750
Joined: Fri Aug 04, 2006 7:39 pm
Location: Ohio

Postby Susan68 » Mon Jun 15, 2009 5:12 pm

Dallas wrote:
Susan68 wrote:Am I being ignorant on some level?


I don't think you're being ignorant on any level! :wink:

And, I'd like to read more from you on it... if you care to express.


I've known drug addicts. This is a completely anectdotal and non-professional opinion. It seems to me that that particular addiction turns a person into one devoid of any connection to reality and incapable of functioning in society on a level far more base than the lowest-bottom alcoholic. I've also known some pretty good drunks (fathers of childhood friends); they got drunk, perhaps were abusive toward family (inexcusable) and passed out. Drug addicts seem to become very, evil, for lack of a better word -- e.g,. stealing, killing other people for and because of the drugs, sexual abuse, abuse of children, communicable diseases. This may be a totally unfair representation to make, and if any recovering addicts are out there and offended I do apologize. For myself, I would have no compunction about dating a recovering alcoholic but I would not be so willing to date a former drug addict. If I were perusing a recovery dating site I would not consider recovering addicts. I feel bad saying this, and maybe I'm considering the extreme case, but it is how I feel. The drug addicts I have know have been so dishonest and engaged in such unbelievably antisocial behaviors (I recall some being in jail or dead). Anyway, that's my two sense. Hope I haven't offended anyone. And I'm always ready for enlightenment, so if someone thinks I'm wrong do tell.
Susan68
 
Posts: 118
Joined: Wed Jun 10, 2009 1:53 pm
Location: New Jersey

Postby Susan68 » Mon Jun 15, 2009 5:15 pm

I meant to say two "cents." :oops:
Susan68
 
Posts: 118
Joined: Wed Jun 10, 2009 1:53 pm
Location: New Jersey

Postby Dallas » Mon Jun 15, 2009 6:04 pm

Susan first wrote:...that's my two sense


You were right the first time Susan! You've got twice as much sense as I have! And............ I been workin' at it!!!! :lol:

Yep. I know that it wasn't you slappin' me around Paul!

The guys IP number told me he was in pitiful Podunk Kentucky!! :lol: :lol: (Pitiful because he's there!... not because it's Kentucky!) :lol:

Hey Bro! I like your list! Just be a little more creative and add:

Rent a U-haul...
Take a trip, not take a trip,
swear off & on ... forever...
(with and without a solemn oath),
Get more physical exercise,
read some inspirational books,
go to some health farms and sanitariums, and...
accept voluntary commitments to asylums—
(together on the buddy plan)

we could increase the list ad infinitum!

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dallas
Dallas
Site Admin
 
Posts: 4781
Joined: Thu Jul 28, 2005 9:05 pm
Location: Fort Smith, Arkansas USA

Postby Dallas » Wed Jun 17, 2009 12:54 pm

Well Paul... I guess I chased 'em all away from this topic! Huh???

:lol: :lol:
Dallas
Site Admin
 
Posts: 4781
Joined: Thu Jul 28, 2005 9:05 pm
Location: Fort Smith, Arkansas USA

Postby garden variety » Wed Jun 17, 2009 1:52 pm

Want me to get them back?

"....Well I was having a relationship with a newcomer last week who asked me to be her sponsor,so we decided to move in together..." :twisted:

(I'm practicing something? Probably that "We are not saints" thing :wink: )

OK well that's a "not really" remark - just wanted to see if anyone was watching.

Dallas? I think I might have woke up on the wrong side of the bed today. :oops:
garden variety
 
Posts: 750
Joined: Fri Aug 04, 2006 7:39 pm
Location: Ohio

Postby Dallas » Wed Jun 17, 2009 2:13 pm

Look at the bright side of it!

At least you didn't wake up ..... under the bed.

At least you woke up and ... still had a bed.

At least you woke up and ... it was probably on the side of your bed!

At least you .... woke up!!!

:lol: :lol:

I understand! :wink:

Dallas
Dallas
Site Admin
 
Posts: 4781
Joined: Thu Jul 28, 2005 9:05 pm
Location: Fort Smith, Arkansas USA

PreviousNext

Return to Single and Dating in Recovery

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 1 guest









.








12 Step Alcohol and Drug Addiction Recovery | - What do you do on a sober date?



cron