Rule #1. I must not be attracted to them physically. And, there must be no chance of emotional involvement. This goes for Sponsoring or being sponsored.
If there is any physical or emotional attraction -- on either side -- that is the first disqualifier.
Dallas wrote:Don't get pissed at me for saying this... It's not a hootie hoot Ego thing... Newcomers are in a fog for the first year. They don't even know what they are like or are subject to do or not do.... Period. (Take a look at the 2nd element of Step One... in regards to unmanageable).
Dallas wrote:If you don't believe that... write down what you think you know now, and what you think you're like now, and what you think about now... and stay sober for one year... then read what you wrote... and ask yourself... if you weren't in a fog when you wrote it!
Dallas wrote:When you've been sober for a year, and you've been busy doing the work, you are going to make two important discoveries.
1. I'm not the person that I thought I was.
2. My values have changed... and what I thought I wanted for myself, is not what I really want for myself today.
Dallas wrote:Now, I did not say "stay out of relationships for a year, or don't make major decisions for a year, yada yada yada yada."
Dallas wrote:I only said that you'll make two important discoveries for yourself and I listed them above.
I will go on to say, that for me, in regards to #1 and #2... they are still changing... after being sober for 22 years.
The key to growth and progress is "change." When we are no longer changing... we will cease to grow and make progress.
Last I heard, there was a movement with in the Ladies of the Fellowship, that they were trying to get a 13th Tradition written and approved... for the 13th Step predators of the sick, lonely and hurting new ladies coming in!
Had something to do with having a new back room added where they could perform castrations.
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