What I would do??? (Or, were you possibly asking for a comment about what you did? Or... what? )
If it were me -- I'd leave him alone and let him deal with his own problems. Those kinds of resentments have us on the ledge of the jumping off place -- he's had two years to decide if he's going to jump or not. It's his business and none of mine.
Then, I'd grab the next fresh never-been-to AA newcomer that came through the door and spend my time on him.
If the other guy hasn't bagged up and taken his trash out in two years, he may have no intention of cleaning house. And, cleaning house is a MUST... if we want to stay sober.. and be happy... for the long haul.
I'd also keep the newcomer away from the 2 yr AA, until I had taken the newcomer through the Steps.... (in about two weeks from the day he walked in).
The other guy is an example of an alcoholic that doesn't need the 12 Steps of AA. All he needs is meetings... cause he's got the power to stay dry.
It isn't until after we're thoroughly convinced that we are so powerless over alcohol -- that we are like drowning men -- that can't swim -- will we do the right about face, and take care of business.
I understand how sad it is to see them. The only thing I've seen that will get through to them is:
a. A major catastrophy... Or,
b. A whack upside the head with the realization of the morning-after syndrom that Jack Daniels is so good at initiating.
Yeah, yeah, yeah... I can hear some thinking "well that's pretty danged cold... and smug, and know-it-all-ish..." I thought and said the same thing about the one's that I heard say it when I was new. "How cold can you get?"
They had experience. Something that I didn't have. They had the wisdom of "being there and and doing that -- over and over and over and over again"... many times over. And, I couldn't understand it -- until I had the same experiences that they had.
Each man, in his own way... has to discover and make relations with his HP... "as he does it"... and they'll never do it the way we think they should!
Alkies are hard-headed. Defiant. Rationalistic. They know-it-all because they're narcissistic. We can drop some tacks around them and hope it punctures their bubble... but breaking the bubble is an inside job... and that's why alcoholism is so fatal.
It boils down to this: "Is my rational, logical, justifiable anger and resentment... worth more to me than my sobriety is?" Our book says... it doesn't matter how justifiable it is... justifiable anger... is for the non-alcoholics, and if we want to achieve and maintain sobriety -- we have to find a way to live with out it. Period. We do that -- or, it kills us.
I've seen AA's walk around with it -- for way longer than two years!
They get worse -- never better. They might stay sober, but their life is a wreck, and often, they have to resort to high-powered medication... and trips to Looney Tune's Farm, for periodic R&R.
"Well that SOB Dallas!"
"Thinks he know's it all!"
No... I don't know it all... but I've been around the block several times... cause this is the neighborhood that I grew up in!
I'm a "Watcher!" I watch them come and watch them go... and I take notes... and do my homework... not so I can "know it all" but so that I can use the lessons on myself!
Maybe... you and the newcomer's light and life will shine in front of him... and he'll see what the two of you have... and then, he'll decide he wants it. That will happen sometimes! That's when you'll start noticing that guys that have been sober many years more than you have -- will come up to you after the meeting, and tell you "I want what you have. I'm willing to do whatever it was that you did... Will you help me?"
Totally blew my mind the first time that happened to me! And, it blew it several more times... until I realized... what was going on.
Good luck Tim! Continue to let your AA light shine... and hopefully, he'll want it. But, he has to make that decision for himself.... and most likely without your help. Maybe... it works that way... so that it keeps our Ego smashed... Keeps us from coping the attitude that we can "fix them"... or save the world... when the only butt we can save is our own!