Nice to meetcha, Kayliz.
You are absolutely correct in my (n)ever humble opinion.
I determined a long time ago that conflict is not a good reason to leave a job cuz I take at least half the problem with me to the next one. Same with personal relationships AND my HP. I proved that several times in my life.
I noticed that the 12 steps mention alcohol only once in step 1 and once again in 12. The rest of it is about having personal contact with a non-human (pg 60 (b) - "That probably no human power could relieve me of alcoholism") Higher Power as (much as) I understand Him.
The whole thing is about changing my half of every relationship. Amazing how changing me changes how life and people treat me. Go figure!
As I worked the steps and continue to PAY ATTENTION to HP, as I get to know Him better, I've been having revelation after revolution after epiphany about my relationship with my wife, my career, AA siblings, and everyone and everything else.
IT WAS ALWAYS ME AFTER ALL !
Does AA have anything to do with relationships? YOU BETCHA ! It doesn't have anything to do with anything else. Alcohol was just my way of proving life didn't love me the way I was.
And THAT'S the real deal.
I thought I might clarify something I wrote above:
Everyone else can leave the room, but I have to live with me.
Hhhmmm ... well... no I don't have to. There's only two solutions to THAT problem.
For me, the two solutions were auto-murder or the AA way.
One of the 3 reasons I didn't kill myself is I believe in life or death after death. The death would be being stuck in a room with myself the way I was that moment. EEeeewwwwww ...
Everyone else can still leave the room, but now I kinda like me!