How can I become humble?
Gees. That's a $100,000 question for sure!
I believe it's good for me to have self-confidence and a sense of good self-worth. That I believe is healthy. And, at the same time to have a level of humility, or to be humble. Kind of like a dichotomy. Maybe, similar to Yin and Yang.
For me to develop a healthy, good sense of self-worth -- my self needs to do things that are worthy. And, by practicing worthy actions -- this will lead me to self-confidence.
For me to develop humility, or to be humble -- my self needs to do things that cause me to consider my size and importance. Example: I could go to an observatory and spend the day observing the giant-ness of the Universe... which, might help me to realize that I am but a small particle of the whole. Or, I might volunteer at a hospice, or cancer treatment center, and realize how small and powerless I am in regards to solving those kinds of problems.
While I wasn't trying to become humble or develop humility -- and my focus was simply to try and hang on to my precious sobriety -- when I was about 2 and three years sober, I used to get a group of newcomers together and bring them to my apartment. Since I was often the only one working and had any money, I would go to a place like Costco or Price Club and buy a bunch of loaves of bread, and some meat to make sandwiches, and some cookies, and oranges, and some brown paper lunch bags. Then, we would spend a couple of hours preparing a couple hundred bag lunches... and then take them down to hand out on skid-row in Los Angeles. Seeing the less-fortunate, homeless, hungry, sick, drunk, mental-health problems, diseased, living in cardboard box shelters, and trying to do something to comfort them -- made me feel so small, and so grateful.
Other times, when one of the newcomers would be at the "jumping off place" and it would be late at night, I'd drive to Santa Monica, and go through the McDonalds drive-through, and order 20/25 Happy meals, and cartons of milk and apple pies. Then, the two of us would make up sack meals and drive around the streets and alleys at 3 am in the morning, passing out the Happy Meals secretly while the homeless people were sleeping or passed out. This always made me feel small and grateful. And, at the same time, (which I didn't know it then) it was helping me to feel a sense of good self-worth.
When I recognize that I need a good dosing of humbleness and humility, is often at the same time that I am trying to help someone else -- that has bigger problems than I have.
I'm not doing those things to try to be humble or develop humility -- I'm just trying to do what I was taught to do that was:
a. My responsibility to be of service to others when I can. And,
b. Because in doing these things it is saving my ass -- and actually doing more good for me, than it is for the people that I'm trying to help.
Other than those examples, the only thing that has worked for me, in regards to gaining humility or becoming humble (as I can remember right now) -- was to be faced with a huge crisis, or a huge life-threatening situation that was bigger than me. A situation where I was fully aware that the odds were stacked against me -- and, my only hope was from the Loving Hands of Life, God's mercy and goodness towards me.
I also observed that when I kept busy trying to save my ass -- by doing good and worthy things for others that were less fortunate than myself -- I began to experience less of the times when my situations or problems would be life-threatening to me, or a major crisis.
I seem to, without trying too hard to do it, maybe because it has become habit --- be a magnet for people with problems. And, as I'm trying to help them -- it causes me to think "Heck. I sure don't have any problems!" And, it helps me to keep right sized, realizing... it could be me facing what they are facing, or "I understand. I've faced that before, also."
That seems to be what works for me. But, like I said in the beginning: I think it's the $100,000 question -- and, I don't know if I know for sure, what the real answer is.