In AA meetings I have a tendency to focus on the solution of AA , I don't dwell on problems or find excuses for them , I just focus on the program of recovery , the 12 steps , and anything positive I have learnt myself about Alcoholism. The reason for this being - I believe in the solution.
However sometimes when I talk I come across as "Preachy" or " Mr. Know it all" or a person not considerate of other peoples feelings or problems.
I don't mean to , but it just comes out this way . Whether my background in sales might have something to do with it, I'm not sure . I am aware of this sometimes and I try to tone it down as much as I can. But I am who I am
Here is an example , not on 12 steps but the BS people believe about what Alcohol does for them.
" Alcohol gave me courage so that I could go up to a girl in a bar and talk to her , - what a load of crap , Alcohol gave me nothing , if it did give me courage it was false courage, Alcohol doesn't give you anything, all it does is takes away your anxiety and fear by inebriating you , i.e. making you feel less anxiety and fear. Alcohol is a drug , a liquid tranquilizer , same class of drugs as Benzos. It's job is to make you feel less of everything including fear , anxiety , stress and esp. the fear of rejection in this situation.
The fact is you can get real and permanent courage (or confidence which is probably the more correct term) on how to approach women in a bar by getting some training, practice and investing in yourself - e.g buy a book on the subject and read, ask a professional , take care of your physical appearance i.e. wear nice clothes , shave and comb your hair etc and try approaching a girl, sure you will get a few knock backs , but you'll learn from that experience, and after a while you'll get good at it , by knowing what to say etc and hence become confident " , No need for alcohol. "
So here is the question : Am I suffering from Grandiosity or just keeping it simple. Even I am confused.