Sure do understand the "do nothing"! I have to do that with my son constantly. He still hasn't conceded to his innermost self.
But as far as the doing nothing when I see another alcoholic suffering:
SOMETIMES WE DON'T KNOW THAT WE ARE SUFFERING!
It was that way for me. Sure, I knew I drank too much and was full of anger, resentments and self-pity, but my alcoholic life seemed the only normal one.
It wasn't till my first meeting that the illusion was smashed.
I listened (wasn't able to put too many words together then) and related , but it was all just so much babble that I couldn't really take it in on a deep level that would make any difference in my life. I was ready to dismiss AA as not for me.
Then, as I put my coffee cup on the counter, a man came up to me and said, "You're hurting. I know".
I broke down and sobbed and felt exposed. But, the great thing was, I was able to see that I WAS SUFFERING! I didn't know it. But he did, and he was like a mirror being held up to my face to show me my pain.
So, sometimes the best thing I can do for another alcoholic is to be the mirror and let them know I see and understand their suffering.
And, of course, bring the good news that there is a way out if they want it.
Thanks for being here!