Many years ago in Corpus Christi Tx I had a chance to hear a man named Minnisota Bob speak. What was unusaual was that Bob was dying of cancer and was in Texas with his wife living out his last days. He spoke on 3 paragraphs in the book. He started like this. On page 132 16 lines from the top and 16 lines from the bottom it states:But we aren't a glum lot
1. We have been talking of serious sometimes tragic things. WE have been dealing with alcohol in its worst aspect. BUT WE AREN"T A GLUM LOT. If new comers could see no joy in our existence, they wouldn't want it. We absolutly insist on enjoying life. We try not to indulge in cynicism over the state of the nations, nor do we carry the worlds troubles on our shoulders. When we see a man sinking into the mire that is alcoholism, we give him first aide and place what we have at his disposal. For his sake, we do recount and almost relive the horrors of our past. But those of us who have tried to shoulder the entire burden and troubles of others find we are soon overcome by them.
2. So we think that cheerfulness and laughter make for usefulness. Outsiders are sometimes shocked when we burst into merriment over seemingly tragic expierences out of our past. But why shouldn't we laugh? we have recovered, and been given the gift to help others.
3. Everybody knows that those in bad health, and those who seldom play, do not laugh much. So let each family play together or seperately, as much as their circumstances warrant. WE are sure god wants us to be happy, joyous and free. We cannot subsribe to the belief that this life is a vale of tears, though it once was just that for many of us. But it is clear that we made our own misery. God didn't do it. Avoid then the deliberate manufracture of misery, but if it comes, cheerfully capitalize it as a opportunity to demonstrate his omnipotence.
There was many lessons in these paragraphs for me. I realized I didn't know how to play so I had to learn. I had to learn not to take myself so seriously, I had to learn how to laugh, I had to learn how to offer what I had to the man suffering (not what someone else has). I had to learn to share my past (not someone elses).
Something else Bob said that day that I have never forgotten was THE ONLY THING THAT CAN TRULY BLOCK ME FROM MY GOD IS MY JUDGEMENT OF OTHERS.
My life is short. Today is the day I must carry the vision of my god with me in all my affairs. What would God have me do.
Once again BOB thank you for sharing your life with me. I am better off having had the chance to know you.
Peace and Love Gunner