Wow, Cricket what an update. I have a friend with MS on the program some 23 1/2 years and he is constantly going to court with his ex and the constant stress is taking a toll on him also. He has finally got the court stuff slowed, he has nothing left to take, and his health is improving, so I guess their just might be a connection.
That has got to be tough with your husband using and offering. Man, with that happening I would be looking for some way out, any way out, to avoid the possible temptation to pick up. I can't imagine what that is like and hope I never have to find out. Then to have your daughter using, geez, you have got more than a cart full. I really don't know how to respond with anything that might help, if you have a God, pray to him, her, it, and go to meetings and share if you can. Read the book and come on line and at least let us give you some support.
I will keep good thoughts for you and hope for the best.
Take care and straight ahead, John.