When I wrote this post I had not been aware that he was on step 11 and has of today moved on to step 12.
I really appreciate your response. It has helped in addition to finding out that he and I are not permitted to date each other until he is ready, or his sponsor thinks he is ready (the latter is hearsay)
I was left somewhat confused however as when I spoke to him he said that he needed to make amends with me for hurting me. I was floored.
This wonderful man has never hurt me, not once, and I believe in my heart that he never would. Why the amends then....? I told him that he never hurt me emotionally like he had claimed, furthermore I said if he had hurt me I would have told him.
It also struck a note with me that during this amends he had made that, I felt anyhow, that it was as though he had been made to feel guilty about feeling something for me, wanting to date me and had to apologize for it. I could be wrong but that is just how I perceived it I suppose. I'm not in anyway trying to invalidating his amends, I appreciated it, and everything is fine.
It may be something in the program that I do not fully understand, I just felt confused I suppose as to why he would be apologizing for something he thinks that he did that he said was 'unspiritual'...? again, perhaps a term I am not educated on within the program.
To answer your question though Dallas, I have not yet met his sponsor. I think that if I were to meet his sponsor, I would be nervous! haha, but its not something I'm pushing to see happen as that is between him and his sponsor to make that decision together. He knows I would, but I have left that to them.
So what lay before me is an undetermined amount of time until him and I can see each other again on a social basis. This will depend on his progress and when he decides he is ready as well as when his sponsor thinks he is ready aswell I'm sure.
All in all, I'm happy to wait, I'm happy to take things slow, so few of us take our time now really and truly getting to know one another before jumping into anything.
Thanks Dallas, any comments, feedback, questions.... all the help i can get