Maybe... I slept too late.
What race is the President of the United States????? Because he did the work necessary to pull it off.
"If" racism is the problem -- "then" how did he get elected?
"If" he can become President -- "then" she can achieve and maintain sobriety -- regardless of race or racism.... if she is willing to pull it off.
How is her excuses (I call them excuses... I'm not as sympathetic) any different than those that can't get sober because of the IRS, Religion, Church, Lack of a spouse, too much money, not enough money, worse-off than some, not-as-bad as some, because they're gay, because they're not gay, because they are white, because they are not white, and the list goes on and on and on and on.
What has she done in her life -- to be a positive example for change?
What has she done in her life -- to make the world a better place for ALL people?
Those are the questions I would ask her.
I believe, based upon my experience of self, and with working with numerous others that: these are resentments, angers, fears, and excuses.
They are rooted in "old ideas" (as explained at the bottom of page 85, BB), and until a person becomes absolutely willing -- to let go of their old ideas -- absolutely -- then, their results will be nil, and any and all of your efforts to help them will be nil.
My next question would be: "Do you want to get over drinking... or continue to be doomed to die a miserable death, as a practicing alcoholic -- simply because you are not willing to change your mind about "racism?"
Then, let her choose. If she's willing to do that -- I'd be willing to help her. If she's not willing -- I would encourage her to continue to seek help from someone else -- that may be more understanding to her "feelings."
She has to come to the realization that "the world and racism" is not her problem -- "she... her Ego, her self-centeredness, selfishness," is her problem that prevents her from recovering from alcoholism.
How, is that "selfish" or "self-centered"??? Because "it's ALL about me" or "ALL about them" (so that it can be: "ALL about me").
You may not like them, and neither would she... but, those are my ideas.
Best wishes for you and for her. It is possible for us to become "too understanding and too sympathetic" with those that we're trying to help -- that we lose all credibility and effectiveness at helping them. We can't buy into their excuses. Our book is very clear about this... Let every alcoholic know that they can recover "IF"... they are willing to do the work and IF "THEY" are willing to change -- regardless of the sad state of the nations, world, or what we have or don't have.