I like your quote about spirituality vs religion. In my program spirituality is necessary, religion is not. I have a very simple definition of spirituality that I got after someone told me the origins of the word spiritual. It comes from Latin "spiritus" which means "belonging." So when I feel like I belong, or I'm connected to other life, I'm having a spiritual experience. The opposite of isolation, which is where drinking tends to put me. Alcoholic drinks are sometimes called "spirits" indicating an artificial sense of belonging, so it makes sense that a program of authentic spirituality would address an addiction to spirits. Spiritual principles like love, respect, etc. help me feel like I belong.
Religion in the dictionary brings up: "the belief in and worship of a superhuman controlling power, esp. a personal God or gods." Even though the BB seems to promote such a belief, I don't find it necessary for recovery because when I seek guidance from something greater than myself, I don't find something that is controlling. I like to think of how we develop as children. A hot stove looked like a black box until I touched it enough times, then I saw it as a black box that I new was hot and would hurt me if I touched it. In a big grassy field I felt vulnerable and afraid without my mommy until I learned that grass and flowers wouldn't hurt me, then I wanted to run and play in it. Before then the field, in my reality, was a scary place. I didn't get to the point of playing in it by having my fear taken away magically by something that controlled what I thought and felt. I did get there, though, by following guidance outside of myself. Neurosis is rigid thinking that does not change. If I could not let go of my fears about the big open field, then I would be a neurotic child, which is what I was as a practicing alcoholic, which is why I need to look beyond my old ways of thinking to change my perceptions of the world and change my life in order to stop needing "false spirits" to feel like I belong in my big grassy field.
That's just me, though. I don't think the point here is to debate about what is the right way, and from what I've read no one else here does either. I wanted to reply to the original poster, though, who seemed to be having an issue with "God" and share my experience approaching that issue. Thanks everyone.