Thanks for sharing. Glad you got through the holiday w/ no bruises.
I'll betcha... that somewhere on that island there were some sober alkies like us. Sometimes, it takes us a while to find them. And, sometimes, even though they are there -- we can't seem to find them.
How open are you with it with acquaintances and friends?
You mean in regards to letting them know I don't drink? That I'm a sober alkie? I have no problems w/ it at all. They know -- and are not likely to be asking me if I'd like a drink.
And, sometimes they'll ask questions about sobriety. Sometimes, it turns out to be a 12 Step call down the road, for them, or a friend or family member to them.
What do you tend to say when offered alcohol?
I tell them the truth, unless a simple "no thank you" is the best answer.
a. I love it too much. If I had just one -- they wouldn't have enough for me, let alone for them and me.
b. I have an allergy to alcohol.... just like some people have an allergy to strawberries, milk, or bee stings. It's a very not-normal reaction that could kill me.
c. While I don't recommend this to others to do... I let them know that their drinking doesn't bother me. Matter of fact, I'll buy them a drink or mix one for them.
(previous bar tender and bar owner).
I love to watch 'em drink. I just don't love to watch me drink. Watching me drink would be like watching me die -- and I watched the re-runs of that movie so many times that I never want to see it again!
d. I also assure them that I'm not anti-alcohol and not anti-drinker or anti-drinking -- as long as it's them or someone other than me doing the drinking. I encourage them to feel comfortable around me, regardless if they're drinking or not.
Funny how some of them will sometimes get blitzed... act like an a-hole and be pure jerks while drinking... and then, judge someone else as being a low-life for smoking tobacco!
Or, they'll smoke weed (which the really sober people don't do) ... and they'll bitch and whine and moan and complain about someone else that does something that they don't do.