Host wrote: but it doesnt tell me how to deal with the everyday BS sober. It doesnt plan out my day, it doesnt tell me how to handle all of the ### situations that come up each day. It doesnt do any of that. It just tells me that if I follow these twelve steps I can stop drinking and stay sober, It doesnt tell me how to deal with everything while i am in the process... It just doesnt.
I guess I screwed up and -- I must be buying defective Big Books. Mine has all the answers to living life that I've ever had questions for, and more. Mine, precisely shows me "how" to plan my day -- and -- "how" to execute my daily plan. Mine -- shows me "how" to get the answer to any problem or ANY situation I have -- AND what to do -- while I'm waiting to discover the answer.
Host wrote:what the Big Book doesnt cover can be covered and discovered in a good meeting with a sponser.
I guess this is where I screw up again... I avoid much of the advice, suggestions, opinions and theories -- that I hear IN the rooms! I have to honestly say, that at least 95% of what I heard in the rooms would get me drunk again if I listen to it as "suggestions or directions." What they say -- MAY SOUND GOOD AND RATIONAL -- but, an alkie of my type can't stay sober and can't live comfortable while sober -- by depending on what I hear in meetings.
I hope you won't hold that against me. The one thing that I read in the BB and hear in the meetings -- that is the same -- is, the facts about the need to be rigorously honest. And, it seems to tick off a lot of people -- when I'm honest about me.
Perhaps... I'm a different breed of alcoholic. I don't know. The BB indicates that there are many different types of alcoholics -- and it clearly states, in my defective one -- that the book isn't even going to try to cover "each type" because there are so many different types.
However -- this I do know. The BB covers "my type." That's what I know. And, that could be why -- I'm able to see and find all of my answers to "daily living" in the BB. I find in there -- PRECISELY what to do in ANY situation that I've ever faced. When I wasn't sure about it -- I would check w/ my sponsor. But, I look in the book first -- then, I ask my sponsor about it. (And, I believe I have the best sponsor in the world -- he's way smarter and more intelligent than me, and he's been sober more than twice as long as I have).
I think John's question and his sharing above -- hold the sobriety keys, for alkies of my type. They tried everything else -- even the rooms and the people in the rooms, sponsors, yada yada yada -- and it didn't work.
So, they often conclude like I did at one time -- "Well. I went to AA. But, it didn't work for me. I needed more than what they had to offer -- and I couldn't find it." And, the reason they couldn't find it???? IS because it's in the book -- and not in the meetings. And, very sadly, but honestly -- I've got to say it -- MOST sponsors that I've met in AA -- haven't read the book. If they had read the book and did what was in the book -- they wouldn't be asking me the questions that some of them ask! And, it's NOT that "I'm so smart or anything" -- it's just that I've read the book, I do what's in the book -- so I can tell them what page it's on when they ask. (But... I AM smart, too! I must be... because I was smart enough to read the book! ).